My gay coworker wants to blow me.

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I am no way gay, but my gay coworker has some sort of crush on me. Yesterday he told me that he wants to blow me. Yeah, he said it just like that. I wasn't all that shocked because he is very flamboyant around the office, telling everyone that he such a total fag (his words, not mine). I don't know any gay men personally, but I think this guy is way over the top. He is close to getting decked by me. I don't want to report him because he'll get fired. A punch upside his head with no witnesses around should do the trick. He's annoying but not a bad person and I would hate to see him lose his livelihood. He's gay, so I guess he's being normal. You think?

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ginsters1000

8 years ago

Let him, it will be the best blow job you've ever had.

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Kuephere

8 years ago

Let him suck your dick you'll love it

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NakedBoy50

8 years ago

I'm not gay and Ive had a guy blow me.

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- stilldoinit
  
  8 years ago
  
  If you've had oral sexual contact with a person of the opposite sex, and were able to respond to consummate the act, you are NOT straight. Assuming you are attracted to, and have been involved with, the opposite sex as well as wish the same sex, you are bisexual.
  
  As to "I don't want to report him because he'll get fired," 1) you have no idea if he would get fired. If it is the first time there have been complaints about him re: sexual harassment, he will likely be counseled and reacquainted on the employer's sexual harassment rules & policies.
  
  If he has had complaints prior to your complaint, and since he appears to have reoffended, there is a great chance he may lose his position with the firm. Does this mean you got him fired? ABSOLUTELY NOT!
  
  The concept of "getting someone in trouble" is very commonly applied in all aspects of life. If one is a perpetrator of misdeeds (criminal, civil, administrative), and their untoward action is reported, it is the perpetrator who got themselves in trouble - not the person reporting.
  
  It's like when someone says to another person: "You really piss me off!" This is an invalid statement, meant to divert responsibility. If you say or do something to offend me or harm me, and I become "pissed off," the perpetrator did not "piss me off," for I have the ability and responsibility to respond to the person and their actions any way I choose. When I got "pissed off," it was my choice, not the perpetrator's.
  
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  - NakedBoy50
    
    8 years ago
    
    :)I'm just saying there nothing wrong with spear-minting with the same sex invite your coworker in your home get to know him and it's only oral sex.
    
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Rick_Bawls

8 years ago

The flamboyant ones creepy me out

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- Bonefrost
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah me too.
  
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roy1948

8 years ago

let him blow you, it will do both of you good.

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stilldoinit

8 years ago

I am amazed at the number of homophobic comments being made here. Truly sorry for their way behind the times attitudes. Time to progress to the 21st century, folks.

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- Captain_Flatulitis
  
  8 years ago
  
  You do realize that while we as a species have "progressed" so to speak, we wont be "progressing" much beyond the level we are at now? Don't you?
  
  How far do you think acceptance and tolerance will go? Homosexuality will never be as natural/normal as heterosexuality. You do realize that, don't you?
  
  I'm asking this in hopes of a response, if this sounds condescending, I didn't mean it to be.
  
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randypete

8 years ago

let him suck your cock and enjoy a mouth is a mouth

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jaybagel

8 years ago

I would let him know that you're not comfortable with it but honestly consider it, you never know if you'd like it if you don't try it. I'll admit I'm bi but in no way flamboyant, I'm very straight-acting (I don't care who disagrees/is against the gay community...). But honestly there's nothing wrong with being curious and trying new things. But if you truly know you won't like it, then tell him to back off politely. If he persists and your answer is still no, I'd tell HR.

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NakedBoy50

8 years ago

I'm straight and I've been with another male I met a guy on a nudist sit who lived close to me. I invited him over and we both got naked and gave each other blowjobs and kiss each-other. But we didn't do any but play.

I was only curious on what it would be like to be with the same gender.

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FJK_frm_AK25

8 years ago

He shudnt get a pass jus cuz he's gay.I find it so disrespectful if gay guys hit on/flirt with someone they know is straight

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- Bae
  
  8 years ago
  
  I agree with this guy, and have you actually told him how you feel and that you want him to stop etc? Just try speaking to the guy
  
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- stilldoinit
  
  8 years ago
  
  This is true also of same-gender approaches. Under the law, there is no differentiation. Federal law does not delineate between same sex harassment and opposite sex harassment.
  
  "What's sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander!"
  
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Short4Words

8 years ago

I don't know if flamboyant means normal but saying he wants to blow you is almost just as bad as a dude randomly telling his female coworker he wants to fuck them. If you can't help him wise up you should let hr handle it.

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- AbnormallyAwesome
  
  8 years ago
  
  Exactly. Sexual harassment is sexual harassment.
  
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  - joedoe
    
    8 years ago
    
    Um no its not life is grey not black and white. Men are bigger and stronger than women end of story. Plus women can always get some, men can't (gay men can)
    
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    - AbnormallyAwesome
      
      8 years ago
      
      What does strength have to do with it? You think when a man tells a coworker: "I'd fuck you" it means he's gonna rape her?
      Probably not, it's just totally inappropriate. You don't have to be strong to be a pig.
      
      Also, if you say "women can always get some" you're only thinking of particular kind of woman. I know heavier ladies who have a very hard time finding someone and I know hot straight guys who get some every other day. Altough most men could do that if they had lower standards.
      
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- Ellenna
  
  8 years ago
  
  "almost" as bad? Why almost, sexual harrassment is sexual harrassment. If he persists after you've clearly refused, report it. IF he's fired that's the result of behaving inappropriately in the workplace.
  
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  - Short4Words
    
    8 years ago
    
    Because a man is much more likely to sexualy assault and rape a woman than another man.
    
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    - Ellenna
      
      8 years ago
      
      Turn your brain on: sexual assault is sexual assault regardless of how often it happens to other people. You're comparing apples with oranges: to make it really simple for you, an act of sexual assault is just that and how often it happens to one group is an entirely different issue, on which you are in fact correct, but irrelevant
      
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      - Short4Words
        
        8 years ago
        
        Did you read my post?
        
        I said as much. You nitpicked that I said "almost as bad" and I stated my reason why. It's more threatening for a male of any stature to be sexually suggestive to a woman with no context or sense of boundary than if he were to do it to a man.
        
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        Ellenna
        
        8 years ago
        
        Depends on the woman, depends on the man, it's not relevant because it's still sexual harrassment and I say that as a woman who's survived sexual assualt
        
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dindu_nuffin

8 years ago

Get the fag fired. They dont belong in the workplace anyway, they are useless

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- stilldoinit
  
  8 years ago
  
  You, sir or madam, are in need of serious psychotherapy if that is truly your response to this thread.
  
  Please speak with your employer's human resources department about a referral to the Employee Assistance Program. You may also dial 211 (First Call for Help) and ask to be connected with an intake person with whom you can discuss your hatred and bias.
  
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  - dindu_nuffin
    
    8 years ago
    
    I work for myself, bitch.
    
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CforCourageous

8 years ago

To be honest I'd knock that fag out. With a punch. No gay shit

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stilldoinit

8 years ago

That was a completely cretinous, barbaric response. We're in the 21st century, and you've been left behind.

What a pity!

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Bonefrost

8 years ago

Dont punch the pansy,dont want to fuck up your job or end up in jail(sad world).Definitely if he speaks to you again tell him to back off.Then its up to you,tell HR if he offers you a bj,or kick his ass.I dont think I'd be comfortable having another man blow me,but have heard its the best bj you'll ever have.yuck.

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Lance546

8 years ago

People are way into Lables. Just because a man tries gay sex it doesn't mean he gay. Now, If you do it over and over maybe it means you're gay So what.

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Tybo626

8 years ago

i think you should just ignore him no one can force you to get blown by him at this point hitting him would just make you seem insecure and homophobic just ignore his offer like an advance from an ugly woman

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Gspyder

8 years ago

A punch to the head?? Why not just tell him to back off?

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wistfulmaiden

8 years ago

Then I guess, you're screwed:(

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wistfulmaiden

8 years ago

Tell him " thanks but I have raging herpes"

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flyingnostalgia

8 years ago

He is harassing you. Talk to him first that you dont like the way he talks to you (like saying he wants to blow you). If he still does then report him. If you dont do it he might blow you, and then there is no way back to straight garden.

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- Captain_Flatulitis
  
  8 years ago
  
  Yeah, I remember you talking about what happened to your father and how he was caught giving other office workers blowjobs and he got fired.
  
  This is a bad situation.
  
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  - flyingnostalgia
    
    8 years ago
    
    No, that was your brother, retard.
    
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