My friends stopped inviting me to things my ex was invited to

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I'm really upset that my friends only invite me to hang out when they haven't already invited my ex. Goddammit we were all friends before and now they keep us separate in social events. For example I wasn't invited to a friend's bday who I like very much because of that. I feel like I lost not only my ex.. They were 'our" friends, now I feel excluded and sad that I can't be with them as much any more.

Has anyone ever been through this? What do I do now?

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Unfortunately this is very common and also very hurtful especially if people who were your friends are believing lies about you.

    You could try telling these people how you feel about the situation and check out their responses, but I'm afraid there's not much else you can do. At least you are still invited when the ex won't be there: it's possible they're trying to be evenhanded but you won't know unless you ask. Maybe your ex isn't happy you're invited to hang out when h/she isn't there?

    My practice when friends break up (unless I know there's been violence or other really bad behavior on one side) is to invite them both and tell them both the other person has been invited, it's up to each of them to decide whether or not they want to be there.

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    • RoseIsabella
      5 years ago

      I think that is actually pretty classy.

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  • kelili
    5 years ago

    Things will eventually smooth out as they always do.

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  • Lestat565
    5 years ago

    You do nothing. Your friends are probably trying to keep the peace. Or maybe the ex has told the friends that they don’t want to be around you. Which is understandable. It also depends on how you broke up, maybe they chose the ex to remain friends with instead of you because of that either way get over it

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