Its mostly just become an expectation that you be an initiator - a role that you play and are given by others. If every time you saw your girl friend you gave her a flower, how long would it take for her to simply expect that of you? Not very long. Same deal.
Also, people may assume that when the initiator is not initiating, they just want time out.
But as you also point out, some people are just lumps & are inconsiderate. And its fair for you to expect some reciprocity.
Rather than waste time experimenting with them, you could start to broaden your social circle. After all, you have the social & leadership skills
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Its mostly just become an expectation that you be an initiator - a role that you play and are given by others. If every time you saw your girl friend you gave her a flower, how long would it take for her to simply expect that of you? Not very long. Same deal.
Also, people may assume that when the initiator is not initiating, they just want time out.
But as you also point out, some people are just lumps & are inconsiderate. And its fair for you to expect some reciprocity.
Rather than waste time experimenting with them, you could start to broaden your social circle. After all, you have the social & leadership skills