I had lots of friends when I was younger and there was no internet or text messaging. If someone wanted to know how you were doing they would simply pick up the phone and call you or you would meet them in a neighborhood hangout. No Facebook or Instagram. No on line dating.
No one calls me anymore, except my Drs office to confirm an appointment. My old friends are too consumed with their spouses or boyfriends or latest TV programs.
I have made one or two new friends that actually will meet up with me. My “old friends” just send me a text once in a blue moon.
Is it normal? Well- it seems to be what people do but I do not think it is normal. A person who really cares talks to you in person, listens to you and meets up with you. I have no “Facebook Friends”
and I don’t want any.
One of my oldest girlfriends from childhood disinvited me to her wedding. 10 years later she called me up on the phone to tell me how lonely her married life was and that she missed all her friends.
Is that normal? No. You don’t dump all your friends, don’t return their calls, then expect them to be there for you.
One friend told me the same story about her brother about 3 times (that he had recently moved to another city). Apparently she was so inattentive to our conversations that she could not even remember telling me chapter and verse about this 3 times. I really don’t mind listening to the same story, however I realized later on that she was very inattentive to things I would discuss with her also.
Is it normal? No. Is it common? Unfortunately, yes.
I try to make plans with friends who try to make plans with me. Sometimes our schedules don’t match up, but I try and so do they.
Some people will not call unless they are extremely bored, guilty or destitute. It is a more lonely world out there since the age of electronic communication.
I give out my number frequently and my entire family has my telephone number(s).
All I ever get are group emails. It’s pathetic the way people avoid communicating with one another.
And it’s NOT NORMAL.
My friends never contact me
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I had lots of friends when I was younger and there was no internet or text messaging. If someone wanted to know how you were doing they would simply pick up the phone and call you or you would meet them in a neighborhood hangout. No Facebook or Instagram. No on line dating.
No one calls me anymore, except my Drs office to confirm an appointment. My old friends are too consumed with their spouses or boyfriends or latest TV programs.
I have made one or two new friends that actually will meet up with me. My “old friends” just send me a text once in a blue moon.
Is it normal? Well- it seems to be what people do but I do not think it is normal. A person who really cares talks to you in person, listens to you and meets up with you. I have no “Facebook Friends”
and I don’t want any.
One of my oldest girlfriends from childhood disinvited me to her wedding. 10 years later she called me up on the phone to tell me how lonely her married life was and that she missed all her friends.
Is that normal? No. You don’t dump all your friends, don’t return their calls, then expect them to be there for you.
One friend told me the same story about her brother about 3 times (that he had recently moved to another city). Apparently she was so inattentive to our conversations that she could not even remember telling me chapter and verse about this 3 times. I really don’t mind listening to the same story, however I realized later on that she was very inattentive to things I would discuss with her also.
Is it normal? No. Is it common? Unfortunately, yes.
I try to make plans with friends who try to make plans with me. Sometimes our schedules don’t match up, but I try and so do they.
Some people will not call unless they are extremely bored, guilty or destitute. It is a more lonely world out there since the age of electronic communication.
I give out my number frequently and my entire family has my telephone number(s).
All I ever get are group emails. It’s pathetic the way people avoid communicating with one another.
And it’s NOT NORMAL.