If she can't make up her mind, then she shouldn't be with either in my opinion. It's not the same if you have a relationship with someone that could just as easily be replaced with a relationship with someone else. If she doesn't feel strongly enough about either guy, then she shouldn't be dating either. Plus, she is probably hurting both guys right now and that's not fair.
I know her bf would be crushed if she broke up with him... but I think that it would be very hard to salvage the relationship at this point if he already knows that she's really into this guy. I mean she should talk to him about it and see how hurt he is by it, but if she can't decide... then it's not fair to keep doing this.
I should add though that if she is going to pick one, she should probably pick the bf because the other guy is a dick for asking her out when she has a bf... that says not so good things about his character.
I figured as much and we know shes hurting him but shes trying to do damage control and failing she doesnt want to leave her bf and desnt want to hurt either guy hes trying to b understanfing abd give her time to choose but shes struggleing and she doesnt want 2 hurt either
My guess is that her bf is probably trying to be "understanding" but it's only because he really, really likes her. But I can almost promise you guys that it is hurting him a lot a lot a lot.
If she keeps taking time to decide, it's probably going to end one of three ways:
1. She ends up with no one because they both move on.
2. She ends up with her bf, but her bf is so hurt by this that he can't forget it and it might cause more relationship problems.
3. She ends up with the friend... who is disrespectful and might like who knows how many other girls.
so... she's really just screwing herself over right now by waiting. She shouldn't worry about hurting the other dude because he was disrespectful in the first place by asking her out and stuff... unless she really like flirted with him big time, then maybe it's also her fault. But it sounds like it's his problem, so don't worry about him as much.
You put it as her "liking both of them so much" but when you REALLY like someone, it's an easy choice and you pick them over any one else. She can probably still make it work with her bf, but she will need to really show him that he's special to her because what she is doing now is almost cheating. She's doing a lot of damage to her relationship. Her bf sounds like he likes her and the fact that he's trying to be "understanding" means a lot. I personally think she should pick him and try and fix what she has broken (as long as he's not a dick or anything)... but she can't keep doing this. Not even for a day longer. Every day makes it worse. If she can't choose, she needs to cut her losses and pick neither.
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If she can't make up her mind, then she shouldn't be with either in my opinion. It's not the same if you have a relationship with someone that could just as easily be replaced with a relationship with someone else. If she doesn't feel strongly enough about either guy, then she shouldn't be dating either. Plus, she is probably hurting both guys right now and that's not fair.
I know her bf would be crushed if she broke up with him... but I think that it would be very hard to salvage the relationship at this point if he already knows that she's really into this guy. I mean she should talk to him about it and see how hurt he is by it, but if she can't decide... then it's not fair to keep doing this.
I should add though that if she is going to pick one, she should probably pick the bf because the other guy is a dick for asking her out when she has a bf... that says not so good things about his character.
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I figured as much and we know shes hurting him but shes trying to do damage control and failing she doesnt want to leave her bf and desnt want to hurt either guy hes trying to b understanfing abd give her time to choose but shes struggleing and she doesnt want 2 hurt either
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My guess is that her bf is probably trying to be "understanding" but it's only because he really, really likes her. But I can almost promise you guys that it is hurting him a lot a lot a lot.
If she keeps taking time to decide, it's probably going to end one of three ways:
1. She ends up with no one because they both move on.
2. She ends up with her bf, but her bf is so hurt by this that he can't forget it and it might cause more relationship problems.
3. She ends up with the friend... who is disrespectful and might like who knows how many other girls.
so... she's really just screwing herself over right now by waiting. She shouldn't worry about hurting the other dude because he was disrespectful in the first place by asking her out and stuff... unless she really like flirted with him big time, then maybe it's also her fault. But it sounds like it's his problem, so don't worry about him as much.
You put it as her "liking both of them so much" but when you REALLY like someone, it's an easy choice and you pick them over any one else. She can probably still make it work with her bf, but she will need to really show him that he's special to her because what she is doing now is almost cheating. She's doing a lot of damage to her relationship. Her bf sounds like he likes her and the fact that he's trying to be "understanding" means a lot. I personally think she should pick him and try and fix what she has broken (as long as he's not a dick or anything)... but she can't keep doing this. Not even for a day longer. Every day makes it worse. If she can't choose, she needs to cut her losses and pick neither.