My friends always drop me? i'd like some tips
Making friends is easy for me, keeping them isn't. I'm not sure what's wrong with me. I've looked at myself and how I act with others and I try to figure out if I'm upsetting someone. In the past I would say blunt things with no hostility behind it without realizing. I've changed that as best as I can and I always ask if I've upset someone, if that joke was okay, or if I'm talking too much when they don't respond or make a face.
-Now a days I try to limit my speech, because I end up spewing crap that's on my mind. My friends usually laugh and tell me that's interesting or they like my stories, but if that's so, why do they leave me in the end? I also act like a comedian, but I make sure to know before hand how my friends react to certain jokes and what's crossing the line or not. I make jokes they'll laugh at and if it crosses the mind I apologize and ask if I've upset them. I try to censor my jokes before I understand what upsets them and what doesn't. To put it in perspective, my humor is a big part of why people become friends with me (that's what they say at least).
-The one problem I can think of is I'm severely mentally ill. I'm not violent, and I don't get mad at my friends. I always make sure I can support them any way I can and I put their health before mine. But maybe I end up scaring them because they'll see the cuts/burns on my skin, or the fact I tried to kill myself a few times. But I keep that to myself as much as I can. I'm a boy so I don't talk about feelings or problems so I keep it to myself. Sometimes with my girl friends I will tell them what's bothering me because they get suspicious when I skip school or I stop responding. It's not something I can help, I wish I could.
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Those are the issues I can think of. Now I'm going to talk about the behavior of the friends who dropped me in the past, because there's usually a trend.
1. If my friends stick with me after a bought of my abandonment delusions, they start to stop laughing at my jokes, start hanging out with other people, start giving me angry/disgusted looks, or start insulting me. I remember a girl, S, we were good friends but stopp talking when I moved schools. I came back and I hung out with her because my friend A stopped hanging out with me (got caught up with a hot guy) so I hung out with S. We were good friends before the move. But she kept ignoring me and getting up and leaving without me. She was studying but I tried to help her and give her advice because she has anxiety. I realized whens he was studying was not the time to talk so I just gave her company. But then when I started sitting with her in the art class during lunch with her other friends, I made a corny joke (because I had accidentally upset her friend) that usually made my friends laugh (and made it obvious I was trying to make it up, I complimented her shirt as well) and S gave me a disgusted look and said "sorry about him" to her other friend who wasn't even talking to me. The rest of the time she flat out ignored me and I just ate my lunch without talking. I said goodbye to them when they left.
2. Usually it's a gradual cold shoulder thing, or they get mad at me and I'll ask their friends or wonder what I did, and no one will ever answer me. They're usually in on it and that whole group starts to ignore me. I wish I knew what I've done because these are good friends of mine. Last year when I came back I decided I was going to be a new me so I tried to make friends with A's new friend group. They all ignored me or pushed me out of the way. Only time they talked back was "he's using that chair. Can you move.". Basically everyone ignores me and drops me without a word, even after I apologize to them. Sometimes they will talk behind my back and get everyone who was friends with me stop hanging out with me. (Also why I'm going to start to get more guy friends).
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What is it that I do? I'm kind, generous, I always try to make them laugh and support them through rough times, I buy them things, compliment them, hang out with them when they need it, etc. I understand it's hard to deal with me when I'm ill, though I'm not sure why because I don't show it or talk to my friends about it. Maybe they're scared because I have schizophrenia. I just wish I knew. Please help, I hate losing all of my friends.