My friend's sexuality

My friend is a girl and she has always pretty much only been attracted to women and basically considers herself a lesbian. However, she fell in love with a man a couple years ago, got married, and has a child with him. But because of that, people call her "bi", but she hates that and doesn't consider herself bi at all because being bi means she's attracted to men and women. She's not though, she's attracted to women and one man. She doesn't count that as making her bi. Her husband will always be the only man she will ever be attracted to.
And I believe your sexuality is whatever you label yourself as. But I was wondering, what would you say she is? I searched and found "homoflexibility", which I think sounds like a close match, but I'm wondering if there's a word that's closer to how she feels?

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  • Like the other posters said, labels aren't important. But if she needs to associate with one, then "bisexual" applies. It's someone who is or wants to be romanticly or sexually attracted to both genders. She has had those feelings and acted on it with both sexes. But bi people can lean more toward attraction to one gender or another, like apparently in her case.

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  • Human nature and especially human sexuality are really fascinating and by all means interesting to observe and research.

    I can agree with some people here in the question of the need to even label people into categories like straight, gay, or bi.

    There are so many people that do not even fit into one single category and it makes everything so much more confusing.

    Besides, I do not even get why people need to know other people's sexuality or why some people run around telling other people they are gay or bi; after all, it should not concern other people than yourself and maybe your partner.

    To answer your question, I would consider your friend to be lesbian since that is what she perceives herself to be and if her husband truly is the only man she is sexually attracted to, she can be considered a lesbian ^w^

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  • I know a girl that was only attracted to women, one day she met a guy, entered a sexual and then romantic relationship, and a year and a half down the line they're still together.

    I reckon it's normal for your friend to do that, and yeah, why care about labels so much? Your friend had a preference for women, but one man made her fall in love with him.

    Homeflexibility is a pretty cool phrase in all honesty.

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  • Sexuality is a very fluid thing and it is ever changing and ever adapting. It's one of these things which we simply have no control over. Labels don't really matter anyway. She is what she is and that's okay

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  • I think I'm heteroflexible.
    And to answer your question there comes a time in life where you don't care what people say or think about you which in your opinion is untrue. I don't know if it comes with age but I know that I have past the point where talks would affect me.

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  • Homoflexible... I like that.

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  • I've never understood labels, why is it so important to name something that people find love in?

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