The only thing positive about this relationship is that you've learned the valuable lesson that playing the role of sidekick for a narcissistic dickhead sucks.
He clearly values your "friendship" only because you've so far been happy to be the compliant, admiring audience for the thrilling movie of his life that's playing in his head.
You clearly see that you're not getting anything positive out of this relationship, and you also understand that nothing you say or do is going to alter the person he is or make him change his behaviour. So ask yourself what it is that you are getting out of this relationship, and why you persist in working to maintain it.
Friendship is not a one-way street. In a true friendship, both people get something positive from the relationship. That's obviously not happening here. You shouldn't be worried about losing a longtime friend, because he isn't that now and has possibly never really been that. Narcissists have a natural talent for manipulating and using people, and I suspect he's played you like a fiddle from the moment you met.
Some bridges are best off burnt, and I think this is one of those.
The best you can take from this experience is that, in future, you might recognise in people you meet some of the traits that you've seen in him. When you see that, you'll know that you should keep them at a distance and not allow yourself to get drawn into their self-obsessed little world.
My friend is all about himself and never wants to do anything I want?
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The only thing positive about this relationship is that you've learned the valuable lesson that playing the role of sidekick for a narcissistic dickhead sucks.
He clearly values your "friendship" only because you've so far been happy to be the compliant, admiring audience for the thrilling movie of his life that's playing in his head.
You clearly see that you're not getting anything positive out of this relationship, and you also understand that nothing you say or do is going to alter the person he is or make him change his behaviour. So ask yourself what it is that you are getting out of this relationship, and why you persist in working to maintain it.
Friendship is not a one-way street. In a true friendship, both people get something positive from the relationship. That's obviously not happening here. You shouldn't be worried about losing a longtime friend, because he isn't that now and has possibly never really been that. Narcissists have a natural talent for manipulating and using people, and I suspect he's played you like a fiddle from the moment you met.
Some bridges are best off burnt, and I think this is one of those.
The best you can take from this experience is that, in future, you might recognise in people you meet some of the traits that you've seen in him. When you see that, you'll know that you should keep them at a distance and not allow yourself to get drawn into their self-obsessed little world.