My family hates me iin?

You were abandoned. Sure, families go through lots of BS with kids & parents saying and doing things that they later regret.

But you were cruelly abandoned. And the emotional rejection on the part of both parents continued in mean and cheap ways.

You owe them nothing. Its obvious that you had already made something of your self - and that you did so despite them is pretty awesome & something to be proud of yourself.

Keep building a great life for yourself - for your own betterment - and, frankly, though not the reason to be successful - it really will get up those uncaring, mean sorry-assed-excuse for parents' noses.

Sorry I don't know what is wrong with ur parents but stay strong an don't let them to get to u stay strong and if u need anyone to talk to I am here

Sounds to me your problem is that you're stuck in the middle. From my perspective it seems that your dad either has suspicions that you're not his child since your mom has a bf now and probably did then, so he resents being saddled with a kid that isn't his. Where you probably are his child since it sounds like your mom is using you as a surrogate for her frustration with him, whether either of them hate you because of those reasons I cant say. I do not believe however you should hate your siblings, nor do they really hate you, children tend to take cues from their parents, if the parent acts a certain way the child believes it's ok for them to act like that to. Usually they will grow out of it so I don't think they will be like that forever as long as you do respond badly to them. Now about not talking to tour parents, I think it may be a good idea to take some time off from them for awhile. If they try to initiate contact don't shut them out but only continue it if it's healthy for you. Eventually they may see the error of their ways, and if they don't then you've already put distance between you and them and they won't have as large an effect on you.

Figures, it didn't post. I started this one out kinda showing you that they are thinking the same way I already have thought and the above is ways that could help you. Although what I said before was very good and helpful, I am too busy looking for work to spend more time re-writing it so take what I wrote above as help toward yourself as it is mostly applying toward you.

Also to the story author as well, but I used you as the example.

4. If nothing else, talk to them and ask for their help in changing. If they are truly bitching toward you, even if they are doing it in the wrong way they are trying to change you into a positive way in their own opinion. If you talk to them, even if you don't agree with it, at least think about what they are saying and pull the stick out of your own ass so you wiill actually HEAR what they are saying and process their information.

With MS my parents want me to get on disability and milk the system and I want to work. Even knowing I as well as many others think they are wrong in doing so, I see that they are trying to help and hope that I find an income soon from something. THey wish me luck but I highly doubt they could ever truly help me.

(In conclusion, my mom is still an addict while my dad has been sober for many years now. Even knowing my dad is sober, he still does not have the resources to help us "kids" out now as much as he wishes he could have. Its sad to know that his mistakes came back and bit him as he is a truly good guy now.)

Stupid writing limits. I don't see part one up there yet as it truly could help but here is part two. Sorry for the story being partly written but this damn site tends to value incoherient babble over truly helpful comments.

Pt2
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To help you though, let me give you some help even knowing I doubt you will accept it.

1. Stop pissing around and try for something. If you are doing drugs and drinking to cope with life, then you are working toward nothing. Take the time out and fix your problems.

2. Stop thinking you are better than everyone else. I don't need to go on about this but using myself for an example here. I fight so damn hard online trying to keep writing somewhat decent and work even harder trying to better my life. I let the little shit bother me and I turn a lot of my stories into a stupid game when I react back toward the "monkeys" who throw poo at the cage. We all have problems, fix yours instead of bitching at others.

3. Your parents. If they TRULY ( are sending you to college, (Your credibility is crap, so don't get upset if people doubt even this.) than earn it. They don't just waste all of the time and effort that they spent EARNING that money unless they believe in you to an extent.

Going back to the other thing though, if she is chasing you around the bathroom and so on, than odds are you are probably doing something that just annoys the piss out of her. I doubt that if she was a good parent as I think she probably is, than she would do it for her own reasons. My parents on the other hand would but they don't help me at all with my life and would rather get high than lift a finger for even themselves.

Thats a moot point though, if you clean yourself up and truly better yourself by quiting smoking and partying and raise your grades up. (Don't lie on that one either, I doubt your grades are excellent because you can't even write acceptibly, much less well.) I bet you will see a whole new side of them.

Remember, and this goes to the author as well, parents aren't just assholes without a reason. Even my worthless druggy parents will try to help at some point, if even to get a foodbox for my hungry fiance while I look for work. If they are truly treating you like crap, is there a reason behind it and for fucks sake, stop thinking that they are against you. They see things in older eyes and are trying to stop you from being as dumb as they were when they were younger. Plus, they aren't perfect themselves and will often explain good ideas in bad ways.

I say be strong and you will be much higher in life than they ever will be.

Good no, normal yes. Move out asap. If you talk to a counselor at school you can probably get removed from the home and go through foster care. It's a gamble, but it doesn't sound like it can get a whole lot worse. You only have a few more years to go til you're legal.

You should get emancipated! Just push him to his edge then videotape it!

:( honestly i am not in your situation so i can't give you advice but you sound like a strong independent person and you should do fine on your own. maybe in time your parents and siblings will come around. i hope things ge better for you. sending good thoughts...

You don't need this negativity in your life. I agree with kellstar, you should work your hardest to do something with your life but don't do it to prove them wrong. Do it for yourself, so that you can show yourself what you're capable of even if it's against all odds. I wish you the best! Stay strong and I can guarantee you'll make it through! Don't ever quit or let anyone discourage you! Opportunity comes to those who seek it. It favors those who aggressively pursue it.

I'm so sorry u r going through all of this and same goes for the first poster!! I don't know y they r treating u this way but I'm sure u r better than this and it's important to make sure u prove them wrong by being the very best u can b! I hope everything works out for u and I wish u all the very best! Stay strong and remember that ppl care about u, even anonymous ppl on this website! I'm from Australia and don't know personally of any families like this but I read about it in the books I read(true stories) and most come from America. I'm not saying it doesn't happen here, it happens everywhere and I just wish it wasn't happening to u!! :)

thats just how families are sometimes man. im 19 and just got kicked out of my house by my mom because she always tells me how worthless and inconvenient i am to have around. today, she got pissed at me and chased me into my bathroom and pushed me into the bathtub and a cut my foot open and hit my head. i hate that she treats me this way, but i still know she loves me and i hope someday not too far from now we can resolve our issues and mend our relationship, and its my hope for you that you can do the same.