Some girls declare themselves heartbroken and go all soap-opera if their boyfriend makes one complimentary comment about another girl.
The fact remains that he's being civil, and you're being deliberately childish, sulky, and rude.
It sounds like you're determined to hold on to your feelings of being the victim of his cruelty (although a truly cruel guy wouldn't be limiting himself to hellos and compliments). If that gives your life some sort of meaning, feel free to do it, but it's emotionally immature and not positive.
More interesting is why, if you feel this guy treated you so horribly and is just a totally despicable person, you're at all curious about why he keeps talking at you.
I'm definitely not a jealous person first off, the relationship did not end because of another female. It ended because he wanted to be single, and I got the vibe that he didn't want me in his life anymore, so i butt out. It was heartbreaking for me to do, but I loved him so I did so. Now he's trying to talk to me after all that, convincing me that i should stay out of his life? No thank you, I don't play mind games. Nice theory, but try again.
It wasn't a "theory"of your break-up with the guy, I was simply trying to make the point that some women (and a few guys) go all dramatic over the slightest thing. They might want to believe that they've got "good reasons", but that's only true in their soap-opera universe.
Given the additional information you provide, some possible reasons for his behavior:
It's possible he doesn't understand - or doesn't want to understand - how upset you were about the breakup. So maybe what he's doing is trying to act like nothing significant ever happened between you two. You were never _really_ more than friends, and friends say hello to each other when they pass in the hall, right?
Or maybe he's needling you in a very subtle way. What he's _saying_ is friendly, but he knows you hear him and you have to make a conscious choice to ignore him, so knows he's having an impact on you, even if you don't say anything.
From what you say, it's not clear who exactly broke up with whom. You clearly feel bitter about the end of the relationship, but while you say he indicated he wanted to be single, you also say you acted on a "vibe" and dumped him. Maybe that still irks him, and he's just reminding you that he's still around.
Or maybe, as others have suggested, he is trying to keep lines of communication open (or reopen them). Presumably, though, if he has had second-thoughts and he was interested in getting back together, he'd contact you directly by text or something and try to clear the air between you, rather than tossing a couple words your way in passing. But then he's a guy, and most guys are pretty hopeless at this stuff, particularly when they're teenage guys.
You're right to avoid mind-games. Accept he's doing what he's doing, and that he'll probably continue doing it. That's his choice, and if you're certain you don't want him in your life, then you're free to ignore him. Trying to second-guess _why_ he's doing it is pointless if you're genuinely not interested in him.
Of course, there is one very simple way to find out why he's doing it: ask him. Her might not tell you the truth, but you'd have some sort of explanation.
But then I suppose you'd think that you replying to him would mean he'd won this marathon battle of teenage wills.
You're right, I guess that's best, to just accept. It isn't that I'm not interested, I would be open to getting back together I still have feelings. But that's only if he contacts me directly about it. I guess my reasons for ignoring him have frustrated undertones, I just have a lot of pride.
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lol like i said, i have my reasons for ignoring him, the relationship did not end on good terms. In other words, I was the heart broken one.
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Some girls declare themselves heartbroken and go all soap-opera if their boyfriend makes one complimentary comment about another girl.
The fact remains that he's being civil, and you're being deliberately childish, sulky, and rude.
It sounds like you're determined to hold on to your feelings of being the victim of his cruelty (although a truly cruel guy wouldn't be limiting himself to hellos and compliments). If that gives your life some sort of meaning, feel free to do it, but it's emotionally immature and not positive.
More interesting is why, if you feel this guy treated you so horribly and is just a totally despicable person, you're at all curious about why he keeps talking at you.
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I'm definitely not a jealous person first off, the relationship did not end because of another female. It ended because he wanted to be single, and I got the vibe that he didn't want me in his life anymore, so i butt out. It was heartbreaking for me to do, but I loved him so I did so. Now he's trying to talk to me after all that, convincing me that i should stay out of his life? No thank you, I don't play mind games. Nice theory, but try again.
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It wasn't a "theory"of your break-up with the guy, I was simply trying to make the point that some women (and a few guys) go all dramatic over the slightest thing. They might want to believe that they've got "good reasons", but that's only true in their soap-opera universe.
Given the additional information you provide, some possible reasons for his behavior:
It's possible he doesn't understand - or doesn't want to understand - how upset you were about the breakup. So maybe what he's doing is trying to act like nothing significant ever happened between you two. You were never _really_ more than friends, and friends say hello to each other when they pass in the hall, right?
Or maybe he's needling you in a very subtle way. What he's _saying_ is friendly, but he knows you hear him and you have to make a conscious choice to ignore him, so knows he's having an impact on you, even if you don't say anything.
From what you say, it's not clear who exactly broke up with whom. You clearly feel bitter about the end of the relationship, but while you say he indicated he wanted to be single, you also say you acted on a "vibe" and dumped him. Maybe that still irks him, and he's just reminding you that he's still around.
Or maybe, as others have suggested, he is trying to keep lines of communication open (or reopen them). Presumably, though, if he has had second-thoughts and he was interested in getting back together, he'd contact you directly by text or something and try to clear the air between you, rather than tossing a couple words your way in passing. But then he's a guy, and most guys are pretty hopeless at this stuff, particularly when they're teenage guys.
You're right to avoid mind-games. Accept he's doing what he's doing, and that he'll probably continue doing it. That's his choice, and if you're certain you don't want him in your life, then you're free to ignore him. Trying to second-guess _why_ he's doing it is pointless if you're genuinely not interested in him.
Of course, there is one very simple way to find out why he's doing it: ask him. Her might not tell you the truth, but you'd have some sort of explanation.
But then I suppose you'd think that you replying to him would mean he'd won this marathon battle of teenage wills.
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You're right, I guess that's best, to just accept. It isn't that I'm not interested, I would be open to getting back together I still have feelings. But that's only if he contacts me directly about it. I guess my reasons for ignoring him have frustrated undertones, I just have a lot of pride.
I totally agree with you.ur very right