My ex says random stuff to me

So i havent talked to my ex in almost a year, but he still talks to me. In the hallway, if I pass him, he'll either say hello or something else, (example: he complimented my shirt today) now, I know it sounds rude, but I just ignore him. You'd think because it's what I've been doing in the first place, he'd stop, right? But he keeps trying and it's kinda weird. I have reasons for not talking to him, I dont talk to anyone in the hallway becaude anxiety and hello, its my ex whom i didn't end on good terms with. I got my reasons for being rude lmao, why does he keep trying.

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  • you are mental . you know that , its you that cant let it go not him. hes is acting like a human . i dont know what the hell you are trying to be.

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    • lol okay, it's definitely human and not strange to keep interacting with someone that clearly doesn't want to talk to you.

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      • like i said you are the mentally ill one thats not acting human.

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        • Can you not read? I said, I have my reasons for acting the way i do. Stop acting like you know the situation, you're obviously dick hurt but I'm not the girl(s) you're comparing me to, so set that bias aside please.

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  • Okay, so here's what you've given us:

    A guy who says pleasant things when he happens to see a girl in the hallway.

    A girl who has persistently blanked the guy for nearly a year, and who recognizes that she's being rude to him.

    Care to guess which one sounds like an asshat?

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    • lol like i said, i have my reasons for ignoring him, the relationship did not end on good terms. In other words, I was the heart broken one.

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      • Some girls declare themselves heartbroken and go all soap-opera if their boyfriend makes one complimentary comment about another girl.

        The fact remains that he's being civil, and you're being deliberately childish, sulky, and rude.

        It sounds like you're determined to hold on to your feelings of being the victim of his cruelty (although a truly cruel guy wouldn't be limiting himself to hellos and compliments). If that gives your life some sort of meaning, feel free to do it, but it's emotionally immature and not positive.

        More interesting is why, if you feel this guy treated you so horribly and is just a totally despicable person, you're at all curious about why he keeps talking at you.

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        • I'm definitely not a jealous person first off, the relationship did not end because of another female. It ended because he wanted to be single, and I got the vibe that he didn't want me in his life anymore, so i butt out. It was heartbreaking for me to do, but I loved him so I did so. Now he's trying to talk to me after all that, convincing me that i should stay out of his life? No thank you, I don't play mind games. Nice theory, but try again.

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          • It wasn't a "theory"of your break-up with the guy, I was simply trying to make the point that some women (and a few guys) go all dramatic over the slightest thing. They might want to believe that they've got "good reasons", but that's only true in their soap-opera universe.

            Given the additional information you provide, some possible reasons for his behavior:

            It's possible he doesn't understand - or doesn't want to understand - how upset you were about the breakup. So maybe what he's doing is trying to act like nothing significant ever happened between you two. You were never _really_ more than friends, and friends say hello to each other when they pass in the hall, right?

            Or maybe he's needling you in a very subtle way. What he's _saying_ is friendly, but he knows you hear him and you have to make a conscious choice to ignore him, so knows he's having an impact on you, even if you don't say anything.

            From what you say, it's not clear who exactly broke up with whom. You clearly feel bitter about the end of the relationship, but while you say he indicated he wanted to be single, you also say you acted on a "vibe" and dumped him. Maybe that still irks him, and he's just reminding you that he's still around.

            Or maybe, as others have suggested, he is trying to keep lines of communication open (or reopen them). Presumably, though, if he has had second-thoughts and he was interested in getting back together, he'd contact you directly by text or something and try to clear the air between you, rather than tossing a couple words your way in passing. But then he's a guy, and most guys are pretty hopeless at this stuff, particularly when they're teenage guys.

            You're right to avoid mind-games. Accept he's doing what he's doing, and that he'll probably continue doing it. That's his choice, and if you're certain you don't want him in your life, then you're free to ignore him. Trying to second-guess _why_ he's doing it is pointless if you're genuinely not interested in him.

            Of course, there is one very simple way to find out why he's doing it: ask him. Her might not tell you the truth, but you'd have some sort of explanation.

            But then I suppose you'd think that you replying to him would mean he'd won this marathon battle of teenage wills.

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            • You're right, I guess that's best, to just accept. It isn't that I'm not interested, I would be open to getting back together I still have feelings. But that's only if he contacts me directly about it. I guess my reasons for ignoring him have frustrated undertones, I just have a lot of pride.

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            • I totally agree with you.ur very right

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    • i just pray i never meet one like her again . i know i have.

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  • He's a stupid probably narcissistic son of a bitch. Glad you dumped him for good. Congrats.

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  • He's still in love. He wants another chance because he Isn't interested as much in being with anyone else

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    • i doubt that. he just being civil. courteous and polite. if the shit smells bad the first time what in hell will smell better the second time. thats life.

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      • I agree. Plus OP sounds like a bitch. Who tf would want her back. He is probably terrified of her and just wants to make sure she doesn't go psycho on him.

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        • Lol how am i psycho? I've never contacted/stalked his social media since the break up. I completely detatched myself from him because that's what he wanted and I'm the crazy one? Sorry I overthink things, but if he was so afraid, I'm pretty sure he'd avoid me.

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  • Sounds like he's not over you, and doesn't understand the concept of boundaries, nor has he fully grasped the fact that it's over between ya'll. I'm with you, and I support you!

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    • The three certainties in life are death, taxes, and Rose saying the boy is wrong in a relationship dispute.

      That being said I'm with you on this one. Once its clear to him, his hellos are not wanted, they become antagonistic

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    • thank you ❤️

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  • The dude is just being polite. I think you're just overreacting to a few hellos and compliments...

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