My ex is being rude to me

We did not break up because something happened in the relationship, she just is not able to see me anymore because her parents won’t let her. I have done all the wrong things such as trying to contact her on social media, appearing needy, apologizing over and over. I
reached out to her this morning with a true final apology on instagram. But then I randomly came across a post by her guy friend and I thought she was in it. The camera was pointing down so I couldn’t see a face but there was a girl in addidas pants which she always wears that I thought was her. That set me off and was like wait she told me she couldn’t date
what the heck? So I unsent my apology and asked if it was her in the post. She told me it wasn’t her and to “leave me the f alone weirdo” I threatened to put our personal movie on the internet if it turned out she was lying to me and she was dating again. Obviously that was not the right way to go about it but I was angry. Before I sent the apology I was blocked on everything so I had to make another account to message her. Before all of this she did make it clear that it was over and I kept reinitiating contact because I thought there was still a chance. You might be wondering well why would you try and get together knowing she couldn’t date. Well she will be 18 in 5 months and we would be able to date again. I wasn’t trying to get back with her, I was just trying to be friendly and stay in contact. Maybe I am the bad guy in all of this but I don’t think anyone deserves to be called a weirdo and all kinds of names because they want to talk to someone. I tried and i’m done with her now. What I was trying to get her to understand through all of this is my intent was never to be weird or to
bother her. She is not feeling the same pain I am and she doesn’t have to go through this painful emotional process that I do. I was hurt and making peace was her was all I ever wanted to heal myself but things always end up turning sour because I feel the need to get in contact again. I was NEVER rude to the extent she was. The worst thing I ever did was say she was deceptive as well as threatening to post the tape for being rude to me for making an effort to talk to her again.

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  • It doesn’t matter what you think you deserve. She doesn’t have to be nice to you and when your doing this crap she shouldn’t be nice. Your the asshole in this not her. Threatening to put personal movies which I assume is porn on the internet is a shit thing to do regardless of what she does or says. You don’t want to be called a weirdo. Then stop acting like one. You don’t own her and she doesn’t owe you anything. Get over yourself.

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  • Not gunna lie it sounds super obsessive to keep messaging and spamming. I don’t blame her for thinking that’s weird and it’s way way to far to threaten someone and especially on nudes that’s not cool. I mean yeah shallow to have some lying dumb excuse to get rid of you and move onto another dick but if someone was stalking me and sending a million messages I wouldn’t want to necessarily stay with them. What she does after you guys are over has nothing to do with you and getting involved will only possibly gain you a restraining order. Dude this is all to far I can’t tell if you’re trolling or not. Sorry if that’s harsh but I felt the need to say it cause that’s kinda crazy. My opinion is you should leave her alone and take some time to yourself time will heal it just keep the reminder of what you didn’t like about her or what she did to keep the good memories blocked out. Ohhh another one, don’t try with underaged bitches.

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    • Wait a second. She isn’t underage and I know for a fact she can’t date. We were sitting together when her parents called and ask where she was. They said she wasn’t allowed to go out anymore.

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      • So I deserve to be called names because I came to her for closure? I never spammed her at any point. I came to her for answers to heal. It was wrong to do some of the things I did. Of course its going to be easy for her to move on because she is the one that ended it and i’m going to be the weirdo in all of this.

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        • Well if you’re threatening and keep messaging her I doesn’t surprise me she called you weird. But like idk if you deserve it idk your situation enough to say a whole lot. I’m meaning spamming like you keep trying to apologize and message her when she clearly doesn’t want it. She blocked you because you kept getting involed and trying to talk to her right?

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          • All I ever did was try to get closure which is essential in getting through this. I did not try to re enter her life, I tried to get answers as to why she hates me so strongly.

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            • "I have done all the wrong things such as trying to contact her on social media, appearing needy, apologizing over and over."

              Honestly, if someone did this to me, I'd stop talking to them. You should probably stop trying to get closure. Some people never get it and this is a situation where you're probably not going to get it. Just let things go and move on. Stop worrying about this. It's over. By bothering her you're only hurting yourself. Also, I'm pretty sure it's illegal to post a person's nudes or sex videos without their permission. That's really not worth getting arrested for.

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            • Yeah ik could of been approached better is all.

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  • Well..I can't read all that even if I wanted to but I'd like you to know that you just have to let bigones be bigones. You can't control anyones reactions or feelings towards you...and the ones closest to you will hurt you the most. Also, you can't expect anyone to feel the exact same way that you do. You will just have to mature up and accept whatever is happening in order for you to move on.

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  • You just have to let it be, let go of it, and move on with your life. I know that's not what you want to hear, but it's the truth. You are only hurting yourself if you keep trying to contact your ex.

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  • Sorry for the terrible layout, I hit backspace a few times and I tried to fix it. Guys to be clear, I came here for opinions and healing. I’m in a lot of pain so please no harsh comments.

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