My daughter is overly obsessive with people at 17

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My daughter, 17, and her boyfriend of two years broke up during the winter. Since then, she has had two potential boyfrieds, but became quickly obsessed with both and scared them away. She has also pushed several of her friends away in this manner. She over texts, twitters, and seems to fall blindlessly head-over-heels. She makes excellent grades, has an outgoing personality, is a cheerleader captain, and is extremely involved in school i.e. national honor society, student counsil, etc, etc. A a young teen, she went through a short self-mutilation period (cutting herself)which is part of the reason for my intense concern. Is this normal? Should I intervene and get her help?

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  • Freedom_
    9 years ago | pl

    Take her camping and get to know her better.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago | pl

    She really needs to see a therapist.

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago | pl

    Therapy could help. Telling her not to be a super clinger anyone would help. Does she know her obsessive behaviour is causing her to lose everyone?

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  • TwoThumbs
    9 years ago | pl

    I mean...sounds like she has some issues just relaxing. Anxiety Disorder? I believe self mutilation falls in that category. Maybe get her in therapy?

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  • Lissisbliss
    9 years ago | pl

    She sounds just like me in some ways :/

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago | pl

    It's normal for an attention wh0re.

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  • InsertUsername
    9 years ago | pl

    I'm very similar to this. She needs to understand that to be with someone, you need to be perfectly happy on your own first. She may feel this clinginess because of a NEED to be with someone to make her complete.

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  • canadasucks
    9 years ago | pl

    I'm glad it worked out. That's great. But I have to wonder...are you not giving her enough attention perhaps? Usually when young people behave this way it's because those who are close to them are too busy to hang out with them. These actions may be a result of her looking for attention.

    Just my thoughts...good luck.

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    • halfemptyhalffull
      9 years ago | pl

      I agree. She craves attention and acceptance.
      You, as a parent, giving more of your time , being a listener , showing interest would help

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  • lovetolaugh
    9 years ago | pl

    Thank you all for extending your thoughts and forwarding encouraging words. As it turns out, radar was almost dead on. She is better today, and it appears that I was the one that overreacted to the sitution. The world has changed so much since I was a teenager!!!

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  • Nev@HM!nD13
    9 years ago | pl

    You and your daughter should talk about this one, or else it would be worse without even noticing.

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  • JohnTrollinski
    9 years ago | pl

    Stop voting normal you morons.

    Of course it's not normal to be a complete and utter physco

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    • canadasucks
      9 years ago | pl

      Who's the moron here? It isn't us. For one, you can't spell and two - if you think this is psycho(proper spelling), behavior then you live a pretty sheltered life. This is quite normal behavior for young girls looking for attention these days.

      Might be time to crawl out from under your rock dude.

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      • JohnTrollinski
        9 years ago | pl

        Oh, because I don't get SO obsessed with people they run away, I live a sheltered life? or are you just a stalker? If you are a stalker, you're a pretty shitty one as it appears you're stalking the wrong person.

        I go out on the pull pretty much every Friday and Saturday night with the LADS, I play soccer and I have a nicely paid job which I enjoy and I have a holiday in Ibiza booked for the summer.

        If that's sheltered, then I am thoroughly enjoying my sheltered life. Duuuuuuuuude

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