my daughter is depressed ,IIN to do this to help her ?

I want to apologize for letting so much anger out on you. You're not my mom, and are a far better parent than her.

But please consider that your role does have to change as she gets older. You live with her, she knows you love her and she can go to you if she needs help. But at this age it really needs to be on an as needed basis. This is the time for her to learn her responsibility and to mature. If she needs you she will come, but in this case just emotional support. You can't make her friends.