A YouTube search does not show up on search history. All you know is that she got to the page of the video which was likely through suggested links especially if they were in a row.
As she is now a young adult, it is HER role to help her. The sooner she finds she has agency over her own life the best off she will be.
As a mother you can fight all your maternal instincts and aid her in finding her own tools through this very hard time (by stepping back). Or you can allow yourself to do the selfish thing, humiliate her, as everyone else in the comments has pointed out, and provide her for no opportunies for personal growth.
I want to apologize for letting so much anger out on you. You're not my mom, and are a far better parent than her.
But please consider that your role does have to change as she gets older. You live with her, she knows you love her and she can go to you if she needs help. But at this age it really needs to be on an as needed basis. This is the time for her to learn her responsibility and to mature. If she needs you she will come, but in this case just emotional support. You can't make her friends.
my daughter is depressed ,IIN to do this to help her ?
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if its not my role to help her then whose role is it ?
and yes they were youtube searches
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A YouTube search does not show up on search history. All you know is that she got to the page of the video which was likely through suggested links especially if they were in a row.
As she is now a young adult, it is HER role to help her. The sooner she finds she has agency over her own life the best off she will be.
As a mother you can fight all your maternal instincts and aid her in finding her own tools through this very hard time (by stepping back). Or you can allow yourself to do the selfish thing, humiliate her, as everyone else in the comments has pointed out, and provide her for no opportunies for personal growth.
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I want to apologize for letting so much anger out on you. You're not my mom, and are a far better parent than her.
But please consider that your role does have to change as she gets older. You live with her, she knows you love her and she can go to you if she needs help. But at this age it really needs to be on an as needed basis. This is the time for her to learn her responsibility and to mature. If she needs you she will come, but in this case just emotional support. You can't make her friends.
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its ok, and thanks for your advice