My daughter is depressed ,is it normal to do this to help her ?

Several reasons i dont agree.
The daughter will feel like you are interfering should this idea go wrong.
The daughter may think this guyis cute or whatever but that doesn't mean she likes him like that.
The daughter may hav something she wants to express but is unsure of the outcome (she may be lesbian)
This guy, while im sure his public record is sparkling (volunteering and such) but experience should have taught the mother that this is only the face he presents to the public. Such ppl usually have an unhealthy way of dealing with the stress of presenting a perfect life to the public.
And finally, we've all seen the movies where this idea goes bad bu eventually ends happily ever after.. This is not a movie. Should it go bad thismother will have ruined her kids self esteem, such as it is. And bring something between them that may not be fixed.
Finally, you just dont do this sort of thing. How would you have felt if your mother had done this to you.. Be honest, you would probably have freaked.

It's a good idea to not mess with the guy or guys she crushes on, because that would be super weird and awkward.

Some of my good idea suggestions would be to invite her out for mother and daughter days. Invite her to the gym, to the park for a run or bike ride. Ask your daughter to come along with you to the salon or spa for a makeover(ya'll can do this together), invite her to mall and take her to her favorite makeup counter to hook her up with the right skincare, base & color palette, invite her out to lunch with you. Ask your daughter to join you for a yoga class sometime. Invite your daughter to pray and meditate with you. Remind your daughter that she is a beautiful person inside and out everyday. Tell your daughter that it's normal to go through an awkward stage, and that you yourself have gone through an awkward stage in your youth as well.

I'd be depressed if I had a mother as stupid as you seem to be: if you think your daughter is depressed LISTEN TO HER and if necessary get her to therapy. If you've brought her up to believe nothing other than a boyfriend can fix depression, you also need therapy

Are you fucking serious!!! A boy is not a fix to depression!!! If fact it can very well worsened things! And make things even more complicated! I'm sure that you're not thinking with your right head which means that your daughter especially is not being guided in the right direction right now. so therefore that opens the door for teen pregnancy as well as heartbreak!!!!

Why don't you try what normal people do and get a therapist!!!
If she's truly depressed the last thing she needs is boy right now!!!

Take it from someone that is suffering from depression you don't want to mix boys with that situation!!!! It's nothing but a heartache confusion and more devastation!!!!!

Dunno... might not even be depressed, just tired/lazy/exhausted, etc. People sometimes need breaks. Depression is very very hard to gauge from an outside perspective, and being sad does not mean you are depressed either.

I am glad to hear those things and that makes you better than most parents. However your complete naïveté that you would play any role shows a profound ignorance for what EVERY teen goes through today, and gives me more confidence in my assumption.

Again "attack" you are such a textbook mom. Listen, you are not the victim, not in your life, not in out conversation, not in your relationship with your daughters depression.

What you are experiencing is a point of view that doesn't paint you as a mom who doesn't harm her daughter in any way, that isn't an attack.

Teens need space from their parents. And when mom's can't give them that it depresses them. I'm not asserting you've harmed your daughter in any other way.

I am simply informing you of what a teen girl needs. If your role as a parent is not changing as she gets older there is a problem. You need to give her space.

It has nothing to do with how nice you are, the only actual nice thing you can do is give her space.

You are not seeing the situation from her perspective.

First of all your her mother not her best friend!!!!

And you need to starting thinking about this like a protective mother would!!!!

Not how how a best friend would try to set up their friend to make the feel better!!! That teenager shit!!

And having your mom do that for you is extremely embarrassing for a teenager she'll never trust you with any information ever again so close up to you and you'll lose your daughter!!!

Your a grown ass adult!!!! Start acting like one!!!

You need to start by finding her some medical help!!!! And some therapy as well as yourself!!!! Cuz it seems like you got some co-dependent issues!!!!

A little word of advice to if you do end up going to therapy live therapy in therapy don't bring it home with you meaning whatever is spoken about during the therapy sessions that's where it's left at you don't bring that s*** home with you!!!

And You need to stop trying to get your teenage daughter the go ahead with boys!!! Your opening up the door for teen pregnancy!!! Because exactly what's going to happen!!!!
Or she gonna wind up with a man that's abusive!!!!

''im her best friend''

If you're her "best friend" you have a problem: you're her MOTHER so act like one and back off

Oh for goodness sake, turn your brain on: so you're going to contact him anonymously and get him to ask your daughter out to cure her depression? Good idea NOT

Her hormones are probably going crazy. She is probably having a difficult time handling these issues. She would rather hide than go and experience what is natural and normal. My guess is that she has had a sheltered life so far.