My dad crushes my dreams

My dad is a very godly person he makes sure we go to church every sunday, he tries hard to keep our family good and heavenly or whatever. He diesn't like it when i watch shows like the office and 30 rock and he thinks saturday night live is the worst. I wouldnt care but my dream is to be a writer and actress on snl. Im afraid to tell my dad though because he will be very upset an would never let me do it.

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  • Rusty-Rider

    Your father believes in invisible supernatural beings.
    I wouldn't give his opinion on your life's dreams too much credence.

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  • Andy77

    I think you shouldn't let him totally control your life. He won't be able to control you once your older :) chase your dream :D

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  • dappled

    It's very difficult for parents because they genuinely want the best for the children they've brought into the world and whose safety they are responsible for.

    It's also very difficult for children because there comes a point where your parent's values and ideas of what you should be, differ from what you actually want to be.

    My father didn't approve of my choices of comedy, either, and made an actual point of making sure he was around to watch it so that he could rubbish it and try to demean my choice. It wasn't pleasant but, over time, I think he had to realise that the control he had over my life because I was a child now had to start being reliquished as I had to take on the responsibility of being an adult and self-sufficient. It's probably time you had a serious chat with your father.

    What's particularly galling is that being a comedic writer is akin to being a preacher. Both use their words to make people feel better. Perhaps your father is threatened because it encroaches on this territory. Either way, if you explain the good of what you want to do, I don't see how he can reasonably object.

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  • sherry

    Apparently, your dad is very narrow-minded. He cannot control your thoughts or dreams. He sounds like he fears the world. Follow your dreams.

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  • Scrat

    You are a big girl now make your own choices

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  • Twinkie

    Many many things will change before u need to 'contact' SNL about a job. Compromise for now. Concentrate on being a good writer. At a later date, either your values or your dad's may change. Don't worry about it now.

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  • BrightEyes

    Ugh, how awful. Unfortunately you should follow his rules while you're in his house. But once you're of age, you may persue whatever it is you'd like and fuck him if he doesn't like it. He can go to church by himself.

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  • musicislife101

    people can take away anything from you but they can NEVER take away the dream. Its good to go to church and all but you should let your dad know you need some independence!I want to be a musician i tell that to my parents all the time its not like they support me like signing me up for a whole bunch of stuff but thay always say "ok if you think you can do it go for it just be positive"
    Good Luck!
    P.S The Office is the bestest show ever!!!!lol

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  • Writing and theatre are pretty artistic, disciplined and scholarly activities so your dad would surely support that.

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  • mtnw

    while you are at home, you do need to follow your parents rules, regardless of your age.

    your dad is following his beliefs (the church and stuff) and using it to guide his children down what he thinks is the proper path. he can only show you what he thinks is best while you are young.

    once you are old enough to take care of yourself, then you can do whatever you want.

    i don't know how old you are, but, i wouldn't bother to pick a battle with a parent over something that is years away and is only an idea.

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  • Pursue your dreams, but wait until you don't live at home anymore (I'm assuming that's the reason you are so bothered by his opinion).

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  • Tygresse

    Why does your dad need to "let" you do it?

    When you are an adult, there is nothing that he can do about it. Just do comedic acting for now, and then later, make your own decision.

    Stand up for yourself. If he loves you, he'll get over it. If he doesn't set it aside...he's not a real godly man. He's a hypocrite. Parents are supposed to love their god given children. End of story.

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