My boyfriends says he has no sex drive, but how can i live without sex

Let me add my congratulations to you on your efforts all around, dear. Fighting uphill it's so hard to make everything perfect. You need to have a talk with this guy, and honestly tell him how important physical love is to you. Ask him if the love you give him means anything to him. I suspect the answer will be affirmative. He values your love. Then tell him that you need his love too, both emotional and physical. If he feels that's impossible, ask him why it's out of reach. Ask him what he expects you to so in this situation. What's his advice for you? Does he recommend you resign yourself to a life of involuntary chastity, and seek the kind of love you need elsewhere. Explain to him that the last thing you want is to find another lover; the most wonderrful thing for you would be if HE were that man in your life. Tell him you're begging him to take this issue up in therapy, and do what's necessary. Mail order Filitra is cheap and effective, as are other products. If you are absolutely sstone-walled by this guy, you need to let him know you have no other choice but to date and find a lover. And THAT means those 50 lbs. have gotta go. My advice: Eat oatmeal and toast for breakfast, have a sizable sensible lunch (for your dinner) and nothing more at nite than soup and apple. Look in that fridge and cabinet and throw out all that junk you got in there.

I am single and drug free. You sound like a sweet girl.

There are multiple issues there and I think you've kind of hinted at them all. This is obviously playing on your mind a lot and it seems like you've thought about it a lot. When you talked about self-esteem, I thought you'd hit the nail on the head (and you very well might have done). But you also mentioned testosterone and your (admittedly minor) weight gain.

If you're both on heroin substitution therapy, both holding down jobs, staying clean, and holding together this relationship, I think you're actually both doing remarkably well. You're dealing with your addictions and to some extent the reasons for the addiction. If his was self-esteem, though, maybe it does need some more work. Dealing with this is incredibly hard. It sounds like you've both come so far. It just needs one more step by him. If it helps any, I'm really impressed by what you've both managed to do.

he has stopped using oxycodone but is using methadone now. I think he is embarrassed to ask for viagra, he says he has heard of bad things about the drug. But he doesnt understand how important sex is to me.????

The first thing that came to my mind is that he never stops using the drugs. This may not be true because I don't know what he's taking but you wouldn't believe how many prescriptions I get at the pharmacy for oxycodone accompanied with viagra or cialis.

okay this is uber long.. can someone please give me the gist of it before i comment..