My boyfriends habit that i just can't kick

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So I feel insane. My boyfriend has this thing that all boys do and I cannot seem to live with this. The problem I face with him all the time is his love of internet porn and nudity of women. I have been with him almost a total of 5 years. He used to be really bad for looking it up and now not so bad. But everytime he gets bored he looks it up. For some reason even though I know it is only natural for a guy to look it up and get off to it, I still can't seem to get over it. And everytime I see his sites I get angry and depressed. Is that normal for a 24 year old female to get mad at her common law for this ? I am so confused and don't know why I get so mad at something so natural... It is ruining my relationship life with him. Should I see a therapist again?

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago | pl

    Whoa. It is absolutely unacceptable for him to be looking at porn in a relationship.

    He's sharing his affection with others via porn and there's no difference between that and cheating on you other than it's nonphysical.

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  • jsyk
    13 years ago | pl

    well first talk to him about it, tell him it really bothers you, second try doing sommething special like making a video of yourself doing yourself and give it to him, maybe then he wont feel as compelled to check out random porn. or try kinkier things in the bedroom, if you want some suggestions write me back

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  • DADNSCAL
    2 years ago | pl

    Watching some porn is a normal distraction, but if he’s neglecting you, then that’s a sign he’s bored with you. Maybe try some new sexual stuff that will renew his interest. Otherwise, forget it and break up. It’s only going to get worse, and you’ll be miserable.

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  • FishaPwice
    12 years ago | pl

    Don't even try to convince him not to. If he wants to get off, let him, your in no position to tell him what he can get off too or not. Thats like chastising him. Just deal with it, don't let it bother you, and please don't take this the wrong way, but mind your own business.

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  • gowila
    13 years ago | pl

    It's not that he will cheat, or something. I look up heaps of porn even gay porn, and I'm a guy. I just do it when I'm board just for something to do. My wife said she use to hate me looking at porn, but now she looks at it and doesn't care about me looking at it anymore. I hope you can sort it out.

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  • AppleBlossom
    13 years ago | pl

    Done Alot of kinky stuff! Some I still get weirded out to or have to be liquored up to do, I forgot to mention his reason to me everytime we try and talk about it bothering me is "I don't know, it's like when i look up cars it's mostly just random and I kinda zone out"... Which in a way I understand because I zone out the world around me sometimes when I go on the computer games or research things of interest. But I can't help even through my understanding but to wonder and get angry and depressed about it. Crazy :P

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