My boyfriend wants to keep me from masturbating?

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My boyfriend and I have been together for more than a year now and our sex life is really satisfying. In the beginning, we had some difficulties but a few months ago he finally managed to make me reach orgasm.
He once asked me if I masturbate when I'm alone and as I can't lie to him I said yes. Since then he's been asking more often and everytime I say yes he gets angry. It feels like he's kind of jealous because I still need to please myself and because it took him so long to make me come.
I've tried to explain that I sometimes just feel that urge and when he's not around I have to do it myself but that it's still not as good as what he does to me but he keeps asking me "why do you do it, then?"
I've already tried to stop but I just can't. He also told me that it's okay, I can do it if I need to but I know how much it hurts him. It actually feels a little like cheating.

So, my question: is it normal to masturbate regularly even if you are in a relationship?

And please comment on what I should do to solve this problem :( I've tried to talk to him, I need your opinion: should I stop it or does he have to learn to live with it?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago | pl

    Ditch him. He's anal and will probably become violent some day.

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  • ILikeToPickMySkin
    11 years ago | pl

    Honestly, it's none of his business. He should get over his insecurities. It's not like you're cheating on him. He probably just feels self-conscious. Maybe just tell him that you're thinking of him?

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago | pl

    Of course it's not normal! I'm in a relationship and I know that both of us masturbate regularly, even though we have sex at least once a day! Hell we don't even bother to delete internet history when we watch porn!

    For a guy to try and deprive you of self pleasure, shows how much anger and insecurity he has. This will turn into a very controlling relationship!

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  • Frosties
    11 years ago | pl

    I've never understood the male insecurity about female sexuality. This idea that we are completely unnecessary for her to achieve orgasm. We ARE unnecessary. They can do it without us. But female sexuality also involves us in many interesting ways. Why focus on the insecure part as opposed to the part which brings us together? That's the good bit. I enjoy the good bit. I don't understand why anyone wouldn't.

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  • lc1988
    11 years ago | pl

    That's not normal. Doesn't he masturbate sometimes too? My bf says he does it when I'm on my period or whatever but I'm sure it's more often...and I do while he's at the gym lol. I don't think it's right for him to keep you from doing it.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    you worded this problematic:

    Quote: "So, my question: IIN to masturbate regularly even if you are in a relationship?"
    It _IS_ normal that you are masturbating in a relationship.

    Quote: "My boyfriend wants to keep me from masturbating?"
    It is _NOT_ normal that he is acting so insecure.

    You will get mixed results on this poll simply because in the text and in the headline you ask for the two different sides.

    And yes, it's normal and he's being weird about it. Maybe let him watch, or focus on telling him that thinking about him is the reason you start feeling horny, and can't always wait until you see again.
    Together with the fact it took him so long to get you to orgasm, it seems he's just insecure about his own prowess. If you can make this into a more natural thing that is connected with him, maybe he can come to terms with you being a sexual being, not just an extension of his own sexuality. He shouldn't believe everything Nietzsche wrote, the author said so himself.

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