In making a confession, he was making himself vulnerable. He was trying to be honest with you, which can be quite difficult for some people. Perhaps, he was unprepared for the response, which he perceived as overly judgmental. And, this triggered his reaction.
Or...
Maybe there is more to this than meets the eye. The fact that he never swore to you, but suddenly used this new language so fluently, suggests that he has been on his best behavior with you, all this time. The question is, why for 11 months?
The sentence, "I've already wasted enough time," seems very interesting and revealing. As you are anonymous, hopefully you won't mind my speculating as to what is going on here.
I'm going to take a wild guess that you and your boyfriend are NOT sexually active. He has been patiently waiting these 11 months for this to happen. He may have talked to his best friend about it. In any case, after all this time, his frustration has come to a boil.
Assuming this is true, he was expressing sexual frustration, and not signs of being abusive. This is perfectly normal.
The relationship may be doomed at this point. And, it's up to you to decide what you want to do, and what values you choose to hold. But, you will find out a lot more about a person if you sleep with them, then if you don't.
We're not sexually active and he seems not to want this to happen. (Christian man...waiting for marriage). However we've been close...and this is what I wanted him to keep to himself... but he went and told his best friend about it.
See, he had promised me not to tell anyone about it so I felt like I could not trust him anymore..
My boyfriend used slightly abusive language?
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In making a confession, he was making himself vulnerable. He was trying to be honest with you, which can be quite difficult for some people. Perhaps, he was unprepared for the response, which he perceived as overly judgmental. And, this triggered his reaction.
Or...
Maybe there is more to this than meets the eye. The fact that he never swore to you, but suddenly used this new language so fluently, suggests that he has been on his best behavior with you, all this time. The question is, why for 11 months?
The sentence, "I've already wasted enough time," seems very interesting and revealing. As you are anonymous, hopefully you won't mind my speculating as to what is going on here.
I'm going to take a wild guess that you and your boyfriend are NOT sexually active. He has been patiently waiting these 11 months for this to happen. He may have talked to his best friend about it. In any case, after all this time, his frustration has come to a boil.
Assuming this is true, he was expressing sexual frustration, and not signs of being abusive. This is perfectly normal.
The relationship may be doomed at this point. And, it's up to you to decide what you want to do, and what values you choose to hold. But, you will find out a lot more about a person if you sleep with them, then if you don't.
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I think your first thought is more like it.
We're not sexually active and he seems not to want this to happen. (Christian man...waiting for marriage). However we've been close...and this is what I wanted him to keep to himself... but he went and told his best friend about it.
See, he had promised me not to tell anyone about it so I felt like I could not trust him anymore..