My boyfriend treats me like garbage then makes me feel good with attention

Dump him. Things will not change. He has no reason to change if you keep putting up with his shit.

I don't think I see him as acting like a narcissist, based on your short story. He may actually be the opposite and hate himself (why he passive aggressively lashes out, then corrects himself and starts treating you nicely). Either way, you're right to leave him. People like him are toxic and just suck your energy.

Breaking up is a great plan, that pattern he and you have going won't change.

Labels aren't the important thing here, though. Regardless of any mental health labels or diagnosis, he's a jerk. If you want warning signs to look out for in the future, research emotional abuse signals, as that's what he was doing to you.

Forget about what's going on his head for a moment and whether there's a diagnostic label that could be applied to him.

You should be thinking about what's going on in your head. Why are you still with the guy? Does some part of you like being degraded? Do you think you deserve it? People always stay in a relationship for a reason, even if it's just because they're too lazy or cowardly to break up. I assume you're not forced to accept him as your boyfriend because he's the only guy your age within 300 miles or because your family or the law requires it. So what have you been getting out of it?

There's no shortage of information about narcissists and relationships with them on the internet. You might also look into psychopathy and how that manifests in relationships. He sounds pretty manipulative, so he might be that rather than narcissistic.

Yes, dump him as soon as you can, because he's not worth your time, effort, emotions, love, resources, etcetera. I think one think to certainly look out for is if a person whether it be a male, or female, a romantic interest, or just a friend reminds you of this current guy you are with right now!

I think this current guy is a liar, and a manipulator who likes to treat you any kinda way in order to control you. I personally do think that he is most likely a narcissistic abuser.

Look for books to read on narcissistic abuse. I've recently been reading an excellent book called Psychopath Free by Jackson MacKenzie

Look into psychology. This sounds textbook. Just get out of there and be done .move on. Theres NO fixing these people

It's people like him who give men a bad reputation. I mean, I'M A GUY and I kind of hate men. Well, not totally, I know some nice guys, but from what I've seen, there's a lot of sh*tty men out there who just want to have sex and call women bitches. Ugh. Dump that ass before he drags you down into his pit of despair and bullsh*t.

I used to be like this with my lil blonde. The best thing she ever did was to left me. I have now changed and she has a wonderful life.

What a catch

Do you think of yourself as garbage?

I think you will go back to him if you break up.