My boyfriend to want me looking like a slut in front of his friends?

Thanks for everyone's comments! Yeah, I know it looks like my b/f is objectifying me, which doesn't make me feel good! At first I just thought he wanted to show me off and makes his mates jealous, but now I can see it's much deeper than that. I think this comes back to what I said, for the bedroom it's great, but if I'm not comfortable then it's wrong. I'm going to make a stand and see if he accepts my feelings, if not then he obviously wants a tart rather than a girlfriend! Thanks!

He's not a keeper.

His behavior is a huge red flag.. sounds like a narcissistic douche.. take off those stripper heels and RUN!!

Its not an engagement party it's a bachelor's party and you're gonna be the entertainment. So get on your knees whore and start sucking off his friends at the party. After that prepare for the gang bang you filthy slut.

THAT is what he is telling you. Tell him to get stuffed.

I think it's normal, and also that it's just for him, like he said.

I think he probably doesn't mind you wearing it in public not because he "wants his mates to see", but because he feels confident about your relationship with each other, and puts his trust in you... so that even if one of his mates did come onto you, you wouldn't do anything and would stay committed to him.

He's probably thinking that there'd be no chance you'd buy such an expensive dress *just* to wear in the bedroom, so that's why he wanted you to get something like this for this occasion, and then that you would perhaps re-use it in the bedroom?

Overall, I think this was really something he wanted for himself, but probably felt like you wouldn't spend the money on it *just* for the bedroom.

You're a trophy. He's showing you off to his single friends, like, "Look who I manage to get! She's hot, right?!"

End the relationship.

1. Red flags of a controlling man. 8 months in and he's already guilting you, telling you what to wear, and dismissing your feelings/opinions. Don't be like every typical girl (including myself at one point) out there and go, "he'll grow out it," or "he'll change over time." Or, "He just wants me to look good." He won't change, unless he really wants to.

2. He doesn't love you. With the actions you revealed here about him, it's without a doubt that this guy probably in the process of rushing the relationshp. As in, he may have pop all the important relationship questions/milestones that require years of trust in just a few short months (i.e. let's get married, let's move in together, I love you, etc). If so, run. Quick involvement is a bad sign.

That's horrifying, if you let that happen again you'll probably end up known as his b!tch. That's so wrong for him to put you in that situation

Wanker. Dress like that and go out with them without him there and see how he likes that. I'm not saying do it, I'm just saying. There's a type.

he should like u for u

It's normal if you were okay with it. Clearly, you're not. So, its not even a question to ask.

Men like to show off their lady. Don't think of it as slutty but rather as sexy and being desirable. The men will love to see you dressed that way.

You are worth more. Have respect for yourself and tell him to sling his hook and find someone better.

On a worse note it could be that he simply wants to degrade you and has just started testing the waters. Some men watch porn and can at least recognize not all women want to be sluts. Others start to believe that all women are secretly sex craving succubus that are too scared to tell them without being prodded. Unfortunately that belief is reinforced by a growing number (((still small at this point though) )) of women who are proving them right.

He's a pervert, controlling and disrespectful. You deserve better than that.

Yes you slut now go out there and suck some dick bitch.

Id take you and wouldnt ask you to wear that shit.

I dont understand guys stupid ass fantasies with this bullshit

Dont do it. Hes just being pervy.

Sorry hun you're not an object he needs to realize that. Yes, it's okay for men to want to show off their woman but that's not the way to do it. If he's really proud of what he has he'll want to keep you all to his self, not show everything off to his friends.

If your bloke wants to take you out, and on a coach with 20 single guys, with you dressed as you describe, then I'm afraid to tell you that he either wants to pimp you out or he wants to be your cuckold! As trust me, dressed like that you are going to look like the evenings sexual entertainment for all the boys! I'd bet he has you dancing for them all on the coach journey home when they are all drunk too and giving them all hand jobs!! Lol seriously, that is not what a normal decent guy would ask you to wear in such a male dominated environment! He just wants to see guys drooling over you, hitting on you, or worse trying it on with you.... and that is most definitely not normal! Good luck!!

Thanks again everyone for all your comments!! I had a really good sit down chat with my b/f and said we HAVE to be honest with each other!! I told him that I really had no problem going out with him wearing such a short tight sexy minidress, as women often go to in dresses like that, but I was really quite surprised that he was so insistent on me wearing stockings, which is what turned the outfit from sexy to SLUTTY, especially on a coach with so many men. I asked him 1 question... how would he really feel if he saw me sitting amongst a group of his mates with all my stocking tops on view? This is when the truth came out... he said it would turn him on. However, he apologised and said he was being selfish and that his excitement got control of him and he wasn't considering me feelings. We chatted it through and eventually I agreed to wear the dress but with black seamed tights and heels rather than stockings. I'm happy to go out looking sexy but not to look like a cheap skank or slut who's asking for sex! My b/f promised never to try and control my outfits again and was still really happy I agreed to wear the dress with tights. So hopefully we'll have a good night and he'll feel proud of me in front of all his mates! Thanks again folks for all your great responses and re-assurance that I wasn't being selfish!! :)

It's not normal at all!! He shouldn't want other men looking at you. You're worth more than that, every woman is!!

you said you love him dearly? Can we say that about him??? if he did he wouldn't push you to wear crazy outfits. Plus what real guy sulks when her gf wants to be decent. Don't do it, you'll end up being embarrased

Hell no! At the best he's an asshole who just wants to show you off to your friends with no regards to your own feelings, at the worst this is only the beginning and he will continue to push you into more sexual acts that you're not comfortable with.

I've found in my own and friends experience that 8 months - a year and a half is about when the mask starts to slip and you see a person for who they truly are.. everyone is on their best behavior in the beginning of a relationship.

Get the hell out now, this guy doesn't respect you and if he's pushy about this, it's safe to say he'll be pushy about other things too.

You deserve to be treated better.

Well HELLO😉......U must be PRETTY,HOT & SEXY Then if your so called BF wanna show u off......U can be my mate😘 I don't show & tell or share(I'm GREEDY....)Imma keep u ALL to MYSELF💯% mate🆗😘.....

You shouldn't do it if you're not comfortable with it.
He probably want's to show you off.
Personally I like to show off my dates, but I often date girls that like showing off.
If youre not comfortable with it he shouldn't pressure you, but some guys like a woman to show off and make people jealous and brag about.

Go online and do your research. If he is asking you to do this then he will probably ask you to do more degrading things in the future. If you aren't a slut, a gold digger that is too lazy to work and wants to be pampered or a woman with low self esteem or daddy issues then I suggest you dump the guy. Also I can almostnguarantee you that this guy has a porn addiction. He has probably watched so much porn that normal things are starting to lose interest to him so he needs to get more perverse. He also might secretly believe that most women are sluts that just don't know it until the right guy makes them open pandoras box.

Seems like he wants other people to be jealous and more cares about how do you two appear to the world...its fucked up..and he seems like bad person

creepy.