My boyfriend keeps "joking" that he wants to impregnate me?

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I have been with my boyfriend a few months now. I am 24 and he is 28 . He keeps "joking" about getting me pregnant. At first, I thought this was a joke but now I'm starting to think it's not considering how often he brings it up. Is this a normal thing to joke about or do you think he is being serious and he wants a baby?

We haven't used protection once because we were stupid - All turned out okay of course. This is when the joking started. So, what do you guys think?

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  • ellnell
    3 years ago | pl

    Some guys have impregnation fetishes.

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    • RoseIsabella
      3 years ago

      People like that make me uncomfortable, and I tend not to like them for obvious reasons.

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      Good point. I never thought of this

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  • GaelicPotato
    3 years ago

    Hello.

    First off, let me address over half of the comments in this thread. I'd like to address that you shouldn't immediately take their word for it being a red flag. People are complicated and address desires and feelings in a numerous amount of manners, and branding his behaviour as a red flag is somewhat shortsighted.

    Look. The man wants a baby. He jokes around about it, because he thinks you're not comfortable with it and maybe he wants to warm you up to the idea.

    That doesn't mean he's trying to 'baby trap' or 'manipulate' you in any way. That's extremely paranoid and please don't draw those conclusions. It simply means he doesn't really know how to express it.

    I believe you and your partner should discuss this in a more serious setting, tell him you're completely fine listening to what he wants and there's no reason to be embarrassed. Ask him what he really wants. He can open up to you.

    Best of luck.

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      Thank you for this, it was very insightful. You're perhaps right about him not knowing how to express his feelings regarding the matter.

      I think what I need to do about this whole situation is just have an in-depth conversation about it and see where he's at. Because we are pretty open with each other. I guess I've just been slightly worried about this.

      Thank you!

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      • GaelicPotato
        3 years ago

        No problem, and definitely! Best of luck :)

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    3 years ago

    This is a red flag. RUN!

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    • Somenormie
      3 years ago

      OP should run indeed.

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Yes.

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  • my_life_my_way
    3 years ago

    Creepy, he is trying to convince you to have his babies without out right saying it. Sounds manipulative and weird.

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      That's exactly what I was worried about. I didn't know if it was a red flag or not.

      Perhaps it is a red flag then..

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      • SkullsNRoses
        3 years ago

        This most certainly is a red flag. Men who don’t want to impregnate you don’t constantly “joke” about it.

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  • Grunewald
    3 years ago

    Might he just want to settle down with you?

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  • lolasprat
    3 years ago

    Maybe he really wants to impregnate you.

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      Well, that's what I'm thinking :|

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      • lolasprat
        3 years ago

        You're gonna be a mommy.

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        • anongirl96
          3 years ago

          oh no :O Well, I'll be taking precautions not to be haha!

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            Right on, good for you!

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        • RoseIsabella
          3 years ago

          Not necessarily.

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  • thepuppet
    3 years ago

    Yeah, like others have said I think the best bet is just openly and honestly ask him. Better than stressing over it.

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  • Wryladradofft
    3 years ago

    Ask him about it. Either it really is just a joke, or he's framing it as a joke to guage your reaction

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      I have asked and he says it is a joke. But, i'm just not so sure. I just have a feeling it isn't

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  • Mini69
    3 years ago

    We don’t know you and we don’t know him so how would we know the answer. It’s an important question, but why ask it here? You should be asking him!

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  • SwickDinging
    3 years ago

    Not normal. Even if he's testing the water because he actually wants kids, a few months is far too soon to make that decision.

    I would have a proper conversation with him about it. It will either be a good way to get everyone's feelings out in the open, or it will scare the shit out of him and make him realise that it's not a funny joke.

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  • jethro
    3 years ago

    it's not a joke. Mommy.

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  • olderdude-xx
    3 years ago

    Many men have a internal desire to impregnate a lady.

    When they talk about relationships they often speak of other things - and may even "intellectually" know and speak of not wanting a child. But they desire one.

    I'd discuss with him what he would would actually like to get you pregnant - and why. Ask him his true feelings - would it make him more satisfied or happy if he got you pregnant. If he's honest and you word the question right - the internal desire will come out.

    Then, the question is how do you feel about him and potentially having a child with him? How does he feel about preventing or pursuing his desire at this time.

    Also, is he a decent enough guy that you would like to continue for now - only you now know that you have to be responsible for birth control as he will "unintentionally" slip up things when he has a chance.

    These desires do not in themselves make him a bad person. A lot of men have them at some point in their lives.

    I wish you well with this,

    Perry

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      Thanks for this Perry. It was very insightful. I think i'll take on board your advice and instead of straight up asking him if it's a joke, be more intellectual about it and go about it a better way.

      I will definitely be responsible when it comes to birth control for sure and i'll keep my eye on what i'm doing and what he is doing. I don't believe for a second he is a bad person either so i agree with you on this.

      Thanks very much! :)

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  • SkullsNRoses
    3 years ago

    He’s not joking. He wants to baby trap you. Run while you can.

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    • anongirl96
      3 years ago

      That's not good.. :| I won't let that happen

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      • SkullsNRoses
        3 years ago

        Yet you’re not using protection?

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        • anongirl96
          3 years ago

          Yes, we are. We just didn't once and I told him to stop half way through anyway, hence why everything was all okay :)

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          • SkullsNRoses
            3 years ago

            I would be VERY wary if I were you, people often try to pass off serious stuff as “jokes” and men DO trick their partners into getting pregnant. 28 is a normal age to want to become a Dad.

            If you want to stay with him have a serious discussion about when (or if) you want children and tell him that his impregnation “jokes” aren’t funny. Get yourself on a second form of birth control alongside condoms. I hope for your sake he is not trying to baby trap you but it’s much better to be safe than sorry.

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            • anongirl96
              3 years ago

              I did think that because of his age he's a lot more eager about it than I am. I do want kids one day and he knows this, but I don't wish to have them at 24 years old. Maybe in a couple of years but i personally don't feel ready.

              I think you're right about having a serious discussion with him and I'll definitely be looking into a second form of birth control just to be on the safe side.

              Thanks so much! :)

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  • Jamie_Sulky
    3 years ago

    I feel as if he is trying to normalize the idea by joking about it constantly. If i were you I would have a serious talk about whether you guys want a baby. I assume you don't want a baby, so you should let him know. If he can't respect that then it's time to step away.

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  • RoseIsabella
    3 years ago

    Oh, honey, don't every be having sex with this fool without a condom, especially if you don't want to have kids then don't EVER have sex without a condom with this dude.

    If I were in your shoes I would have a serious conversation with the guy as soon as possible!

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    • GaelicPotato
      3 years ago

      Ever heard of birth control?

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      • RoseIsabella
        3 years ago

        Yes, but the birth control pill doesn't always work, it has side effects and has links to future risks of cancer and stroke.

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        • GaelicPotato
          3 years ago

          It doesn't work IF taken irregularly and taken inconsistently. That's unfortunately many womens downfall.

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            I only tried birth control pills once in my life for about a month, or two. I didn't tell my boyfriend, because they way I saw it it wasn't any of his business as he wasn't paying for the pills, and I didn't want him to get used to, or expect sex without condoms.

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        • olderdude-xx
          3 years ago

          Several forms of birth control are significantly more effective than Condoms.

          Condoms fail too; although most often the failure is in improper use (but some do just break).

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          • RoseIsabella
            3 years ago

            I think what would be ideal would be for OP to have a serious sit down conversation with boyfriend to see whether, or not this guy is joking, but if his ideas about having kids don't match hers the ideal thing might be for her to find someone else. I also think that if she chooses to stay with him she ought to be the one in charge of the condoms, because if he really wants to get her pregnant he might be the type to poke holes in condoms anyway. He might be kinda crazy, and some people will do anything to get their way.

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            • GaelicPotato
              3 years ago

              I really hate it when you talk about someone else's relationship because almost always on every post you're suggesting they break up some way or another and that whatever man is involved is malicious somehow.

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  • TruthandReality
    3 years ago

    Hes trying to edge on to you He wants to impregnate you and Have a Kid. Be open to him.

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  • Dot123
    3 years ago

    He want mommy milkers.

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  • KacyWatson
    3 years ago

    I don't understand. Why would getting pregnant be a problem.

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  • fatok
    3 years ago

    go for it!

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  • darefu
    3 years ago

    Maybe he finally found out what it feels like to do it will out a rain coat and now wants to do it again and again. Really males have a clock just like females they just don't work very well. I've known male clocks to go off at 16 and others at 50 some never. Personally I think we are waiting too late in life to have kids. It's not fair to a 15 or 16 year old to have parents in their 50s or 60s and I can tell you I don't want to be dealing with teenage BS when I'm in my 50s. But you do need to talk. Is it time to take the next step in your relationship or break it off so he can find someone who is ready and in the same place of life that he is. If you're not ready then he's not safe for you. I have a 99% effective BC nephew !!

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