He committed suicide. We had had a big fight,and I texted him that I was sorry,but it was too late. Plus,he had talked about killing himself for months beforehand.
My best friend in High School committed suicide...
I understand a lot about your situation.
He did not commit suicide because of you... There were significant other problems behind it.
It is possible that you were the feather that broke an extremely structurally deficient bridge. But the bridge failed from being extremely structurally deficient, not because a feather landed on it. Anything that landed at that point would have collapsed the bridge, and even just temperature changes or wind.
It may take a while for the family to understand that (and I've known more than a few families who have had children suicide). But, they will know that there were other major issues at play.
You also can move forward in life and have a positive future...
I wish you well, and a bright future with new relationships..
Not your fault then. People fight and argue all the time, doesn’t mean you expect them to kill themselves. You say he had talked about killing himself for ages so if it hadn’t happened when it did the chances are it would have done soon anyway.
I think you should go to the funeral, stay quietly in the back, make your peace with his death then go home and grieve.
It's understandable if you feel bad or do not want to see your loved one in that state. I advise you to go for your own sanity though. You will regret not being able to say good bye. Also morning is very important so no one should disrupt you if you wish to attend.
Try to bear in mind that you are not responsible for his death. Like all of us, he had the power to end his own life and he decided to exercise that option. Regardless of the wrongs and rights of your argument, who said what to whom and who was ultimately responsible for the blow-up, he apparently chose to react to it in a particular way.
Sometimes suicide is a cry for help. Sometimes it's an act of despair by someone who simply sees no good reason to continue living. But sometimes suicide is the ultimate "Fuck you!" and it's actually intended to inflict the maximum pain on those left behind.
My boyfriend just died and I am not going to the funeral
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My best friend in High School committed suicide...
I understand a lot about your situation.
He did not commit suicide because of you... There were significant other problems behind it.
It is possible that you were the feather that broke an extremely structurally deficient bridge. But the bridge failed from being extremely structurally deficient, not because a feather landed on it. Anything that landed at that point would have collapsed the bridge, and even just temperature changes or wind.
It may take a while for the family to understand that (and I've known more than a few families who have had children suicide). But, they will know that there were other major issues at play.
You also can move forward in life and have a positive future...
I wish you well, and a bright future with new relationships..
Not your fault then. People fight and argue all the time, doesn’t mean you expect them to kill themselves. You say he had talked about killing himself for ages so if it hadn’t happened when it did the chances are it would have done soon anyway.
I think you should go to the funeral, stay quietly in the back, make your peace with his death then go home and grieve.
Omg im so sorry to hear that
I hope you're okay
It's understandable if you feel bad or do not want to see your loved one in that state. I advise you to go for your own sanity though. You will regret not being able to say good bye. Also morning is very important so no one should disrupt you if you wish to attend.
Try to bear in mind that you are not responsible for his death. Like all of us, he had the power to end his own life and he decided to exercise that option. Regardless of the wrongs and rights of your argument, who said what to whom and who was ultimately responsible for the blow-up, he apparently chose to react to it in a particular way.
Sometimes suicide is a cry for help. Sometimes it's an act of despair by someone who simply sees no good reason to continue living. But sometimes suicide is the ultimate "Fuck you!" and it's actually intended to inflict the maximum pain on those left behind.