My boyfriend is submissive
my boyfriend recently told me his fantasy is to be tied up & beaten by me.. he’s submissive, and i dont feel comfortable doing those things. should i break up with him?
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my boyfriend recently told me his fantasy is to be tied up & beaten by me.. he’s submissive, and i dont feel comfortable doing those things. should i break up with him?
I would agree with these other two, here is my take on it.
If you have tried it and don't like it there are four feasible options for your future and when you talk with him you'll discuss which is the most likely.
1. You continue to try and do what he wants even though you don't like it.
2. He gives them up and you continue together without doing those things or maybe only doing them once a year like on his birthday.
3. You break up and go your separate ways.
4. You stay together you do nothing but allow him permission to be dominated by another party.
So many people jump to the conclusion of breaking up but in reality everything in a relationship is compromise. You have to talk to each other to find that compromise. You should never be FORCED to do anything you don't want to, but ultimately even if you don't like to do them then it's up to you to say that and determine if you're willing to do them as part of a compromise.
Don't do anything you're not comfortable with: have you told him your feelings about his fantasy?
Breaking up may be inevitable if he tries to manipulate or coerce you into doing something you don't want to do, or if his need to fulfil his fantasy is so strong he decides to meet the need elsewhere and you're not ok with that.