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My boyfriend watches porn and he knows i know, he told me.. he also knows that i dont like it since my dad watches it and i think its horrible that women would act like that! he knows that i dont like anything of that sort and that it upsets me about the way our world is going on its realationship style! if anyone knows what i can do plz tell me. i love him but hate his habbits..
Pornography isnt the worst of problems in the world,at least you dont get std's from it, buttt it can lead to psychological problems, and it has other hidden consequences that are unseen to the average joe. Psychological problems for males-many men who constantly watch porn, and especially men who masturbate to porn often develop a dependancy on things like that to get erections, and this can ruin sex life in the bed room, or at least dullen the sex life.
For women- I hear women are much more psychological than men when it comes to having sex. Knowing that your man looks at other women, and that you arent his ONLY companion can mess up the psycological aspect of sex.
I myself have seen porn before, and got a sense of guilty gratification until I was at school one day and we talked about porn in a christian orginization I was part of. Did you know large numbers of illegal immigrants and other girls that have been obducted, gone missing, been molested..etc. are part of pornographic films against their wills? I listened to an interview of a girl that escaped that life, and I nearly started weeping infront of my classmates. Tell your boyfriend that whenever he watches porn, he is possibly supporting those monsters who exploit young girls in those ways. Even if it says they are 18, it can be a lie. Mabye that will get your bf to thinking.
I know that is isnt right for christains to watch pornography, but I have had week moments before. We are only human and we mess up sometimes. That is why I am so thankful for forgivenes. I resent having ever looked at porn. because if I ever get married, I want my wife to be the only woman I ever think of in intimate terms. Seing what I have in the past is just uneeded clutter in my mind now that will take a while to clear out.
It's just visual stimulus - all it means is he's a normal male with normal desires who responds to sexually arousing media.
You're the one with the problem unfortunately. He can be sensitive and not discuss it or watch it in your presence, but you have to compromise and accept he watches it in private, whether or not it 'disgusts you'. If you love him, you should be able to deal with his irritating habits.
Why is it horrible that "women act like that", but not horrible that men act like that? Perhaps you should try and update your perspective of the world and open your mind a little bit.