Okay, wow. I was coming into this thinking well that would suck and be really difficult but of course I would stay with them if they were going blind. Assuming I really did love them and our relationship was good, I wouldn't let a difficulty like that stop me. If it were say my boyfriend now? Not even a question, I would be there for him and help him through this - he's the love of my life and the only reason we're not already married is money.
But I can't ignore the rest of your post and neither should you. Him having a temper is one thing. It's good that he's never behaved violently toward you but the fact that he behaves violently in the first place is a huge red flag. This blindness is going to be very difficult for him, coming to terms with serious disability and health problems can really fuck with a person - just because he hasn't taken his anger out on you doesn't mean he never will if he can't control himself.
And maybe he's learned his lesson and will extricate himself from this underworld he's entrenched in, but I will say from some experience, you don't want to associate people who associate with sellers of hard drugs. Even if he's otherwise a totally decent person, well, he was still making and providing a drug that ruins lives. And he's still associating with people involved in this. What happens if someone gets a bad batch, or someone gets impatient with him and comes after him? His actions could be putting not only himself but also you and and family you may someday have in serious danger.
There are no guarantees in that world, hell - I dated a guy who wanted to get into minor selling ecstasy, a fucking party drug that doesn't carry such serious connotations. Was trying to pick up in bulk because he figured "I'm always helping friends get it, why not just get more myself so I can help everyone out?" He got robbed at gunpoint. I knew of someone in my neighborhood who sold coke briefly (live in a kind of shitty town) and he's been robbed twice, another attempted breakin, and been pulled into all this violent shit because of his associations.
Seriously, you're young, and you maybe haven't seen how dark this shit can get. As much as you might love him, this guy is no good for you, and it has nothing to do with his eyesight or lack therof.
My boyfriend is going to be blind
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Okay, wow. I was coming into this thinking well that would suck and be really difficult but of course I would stay with them if they were going blind. Assuming I really did love them and our relationship was good, I wouldn't let a difficulty like that stop me. If it were say my boyfriend now? Not even a question, I would be there for him and help him through this - he's the love of my life and the only reason we're not already married is money.
But I can't ignore the rest of your post and neither should you. Him having a temper is one thing. It's good that he's never behaved violently toward you but the fact that he behaves violently in the first place is a huge red flag. This blindness is going to be very difficult for him, coming to terms with serious disability and health problems can really fuck with a person - just because he hasn't taken his anger out on you doesn't mean he never will if he can't control himself.
And maybe he's learned his lesson and will extricate himself from this underworld he's entrenched in, but I will say from some experience, you don't want to associate people who associate with sellers of hard drugs. Even if he's otherwise a totally decent person, well, he was still making and providing a drug that ruins lives. And he's still associating with people involved in this. What happens if someone gets a bad batch, or someone gets impatient with him and comes after him? His actions could be putting not only himself but also you and and family you may someday have in serious danger.
There are no guarantees in that world, hell - I dated a guy who wanted to get into minor selling ecstasy, a fucking party drug that doesn't carry such serious connotations. Was trying to pick up in bulk because he figured "I'm always helping friends get it, why not just get more myself so I can help everyone out?" He got robbed at gunpoint. I knew of someone in my neighborhood who sold coke briefly (live in a kind of shitty town) and he's been robbed twice, another attempted breakin, and been pulled into all this violent shit because of his associations.
Seriously, you're young, and you maybe haven't seen how dark this shit can get. As much as you might love him, this guy is no good for you, and it has nothing to do with his eyesight or lack therof.