My boyfriend has bad taste?

I'm an artist and a deeply passionate one at that. I invest great time into my work and have spent most of my life on one project. I have studied up on art in college and am working on an animation degree. Because of this I am very well educated on art and it's ever evolving meanings and how there is no one good or bad style, sound, feel to art. There is still bad art, but I understand the powerful effects of subjectivity. Meanwhile, my boyfriend.... is completely uncultured. He only likes things exactly to his standards and all other art is considered trash. He's unbudging and stubborn. While a cultured viewer can learn to appreciate many different styles or tones, my boyfriend likes one: over serious, over dramatic, adult geared content. Meaning a fun plucky cartoon is childish to him. He cannot appreciate it. A tender romance is dull and even if he'll watch part of it, he'll still complain about it's lack of realism. A happy song is stupid. He's an all around hater of media and treats it with a snooty attitude as if it's made for him and if it doesn't fit his tastes, it's trash and no one can enjoy it. As if he's the be all end all of what is good and bad and if it doesn't have enough adult drama and dull dreary seriousness, it's too immature. He once told me avatar the last surrender wasnt realistic enough. The beauty of fantasy and creativity are lost on him if the story isn't it gritty and dramatic. You can imagine what a downer he is. I can't enjoy any show with him if it isn't an emofest of misery. Because of this, he nitpicks and fusses with my story for it's for lighthearted charisma. Things my best friend finds so interesting and heart warming and intricate, are completely lost on him. Most people love my story and find the relationships to be deep, emotional, and intelligent. All of this means nothing to him. The sci-fi world I've spent hours drawing, speculating, developing.. means nothing to him. All he cares about is the "dark" stuff. The villains, or the over dramatic depressing "realistic" ideas. It's one thing to enjoy dark things and another to have unyielding hatred for anything but it and bitch at anything happy for it's "immaturity". It's bizarre that this is his taste in media as, he is the opposite as a person. He loves light hearted things in real life, is so down to earth and kind, and can be silly and playful without feeling it is stupid. In fact, when I talk to him about real life dark things, he shies away from upsetting topics.. anyway.. his taste is wretched and he dislikes so much fantastic work that I hold close to my heart as an artist including my own. I get so... sick of it!! He hates this, he hates that. My beautiful world is dull and silly to him. Sometimes we fight about it. I've tried my hardest to find way to connect with him on this matter but he just doesn't see art the way an artist would. He sees all media as made only for him and no one else and if he doesn't like it, it's trash. I have this close artist friend who is so deeply invested in my art he often talks about putting real time into adding to my vision, collaborating with me. He chooses to set aside his own work in order to dedicate his focus to mine and sees my visions for the bright and beautiful thing it is. People tell me all the time that we'd be better suited for each other. But I love my boyfriend so much and in so many ways, he's a great match for me. I don't have those kinds of feelings for my friend but I know he feels that way about me, whether he'd ever admit it or not. It's not that I want to break up with my boyfriend or that I like this other guy better, if my boyfriend could have both, a decent taste in art, and the amazing personality I love so much, I'd choose him in a heart beat. I want to marry him as it is. But this one thing worries me... Should I not be with someone that cant appreciate and cherish my dreams? I don't want to.. But if ever a time to change my course it'd better be now before we make a serious mistake. I want to be with my boyfriend in my heart. But I also want to know what you guys think. Should a talented artist marry someone that will never appreciate their abilities and life's work?

Break up with him and date an artist like you 13
Stay and enjoy the good relationship you have 5
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Comments ( 6 )
  • RoseIsabella

    Paragraphs are the spice of life.

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  • Arm0se

    I voted for the wrong thing. He sounds like a real downer suck the joy out of a room kinda person. I'd rather be alone forever than be with someone like that.

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  • Ellenna

    I find your wall of words aethestically unpleasing and very uncultured so I couldn't be bothered reading it after the first self-centred up yourself section.

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  • Boojum

    So, in summary: you believe you have finely developed aesthetic sensitivities and huge artistic talent, while you consider your boyfriend an annoying, stupid, uncultured boor.

    Dump him and go with the artist. You can have lots of anguished, deeply profound conversations with him about your respective visions and eventually disappear up each other's assholes.

    The world will then be a better place.

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  • eageali

    I might have skipped a good portion of your wall of text, but yo. You just ranted so much about him. The positive things sounded pretty ingenuine; like a compliment sandwich... Don't waste his and your time

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  • lordofopinions

    It depends what we are talking about. I read the title but skipped the rest because it looked so long. You could ask him to modify his diet if his ejaculate tastes bad or if his breath stinks then suggest he brush his teeth and use a good mouthwash.

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