My boyfriend has a weird fetish

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My boyfriend saves photos of my close girlfriends and crops me out of them.
He says that he likes to imagine them watching us when we have sex
he also uses these photos to get himself off (he says he imagines being intimate with me, but they are watching and he plays the photos on a slide show to imagine they are moving)
We get intimate quite often and our sex life is amazing
i feel really insecure about his fetish because he crops me out of photos. (I feel degraded and worthless because he needs to look at other girls)
The only reason he came clean about his fetish is because i found photos on his laptop and was very hurt and upset that i had been cropped out of them
He says he has no interest what so ever in any of my friends and he only loves me and wants to be with me.
do you think that i should learn to be okay with it?
or do you think this is super creepy and weird?
i don't know what to do , i am so confused.
We have been together for 5 years and lived together for 3 years.

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  • VeganKiller365
    9 years ago

    If he didn't actually love you he'd just get off to the photos, he would've ditched you a long time ago, everyone likes different things accept it and let it fuel things in the bedroom ;)

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    • jessjane02
      9 years ago

      Thank u. Comments like this make me feel so much better about myself.

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  • Karmasbitch
    9 years ago

    This is quite strange, I wouldn't say its normal, and I also dont want to persuade your decision. So I highly suggest you listen to your inner voice, or 'gut' (:

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  • jessjane02
    9 years ago

    My inner voice and gut is telling me to see past this because I love him so much.
    80 percent of people have weird fetishes right? I've been reading about it and at least he was able to tell me about it, I mean most fetishes are so bad people are ashamed to even discuss this with their partners.

    I don't know. Maybe I will try to embrace it and suggest we both look at photos together whilst being intimate. Maybe this can open our sex life up a bit and bring it to a new level. Do u think I am being bizarre here?

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    • Kasper_212
      9 years ago

      What you wrote here is genius, you should ask him if you guys can look at pornography together.
      This is common act by cuppels just so you know :D

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    • Gspyder
      9 years ago

      It's kind of a bizarre fetish, but being willing to participate in a partners fetish usually does bring you a lot closer. I'm lucky enough to have a girlfriend who will try whatever weird things I'm curious about it so I know he would appreciate that. If it won't bother you and you don't feel disrespected then it's a great idea and you are very mature for being open enough to even consider it on your own

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    9 years ago

    Weeeeeeeeird. He's probably imaging he's with them when he's with you.

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  • Bobblahblah
    9 years ago

    If someone loves you, they generally try not to hurt you.

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  • ilovetoiletrolls
    9 years ago

    I'd tell him how you feel. I personally would assume he has issues and would decide to break it off in a heartbeat but that's just me.

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  • sadistically_curious
    9 years ago

    Everyone had different fetish's. Yours will definitely not be the same as his. This is what he gets off on. I say it's fine, but it's really up to you

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  • [Old Memory]
    9 years ago

    Iin fiction?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      What does that mean?

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  • richmanjoe
    9 years ago

    That is very strange. He may have the fantasy of being watched that needs to be played out. It is the specifics of clipping photos of people you know and such that is strange.

    I suggest you both go to a swingers club. You two could get it on with just each other, and there would be others watching. Then see if that clears up his behavior.

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  • Kasper_212
    9 years ago

    Male brain and body staring Kasper
    This is quite common Male behavior i tell you, your boyfriend is just like most boys.
    A boy do often look at other girls and mastrubate but most of the time thinks about there girlfriend while watching pornography
    (i know alot about this cus i do research this almost every weekend.)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      are you a male or a female?

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      • Kasper_212
        9 years ago

        I am male

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    If I were you I'd get in his computer and phone as phone, erase all the photos, dump him and move the hell out. This guy sounds like a major league creep!

    I bet he wouldn't appreciate it if you were the one with the weird and creepy fetish. Cut your losses and move on with your life. The longer you stay the worse it will get.

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    • jimrichy
      9 years ago

      You sound like you're probably shit in bed.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Well, you sure as hell ain't never gonna find out!
        :-P

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  • Gspyder
    9 years ago

    I've heard of exhibitionism of course, but fantasizing about your female friends seems disrespectful to you. You should tell him that and explain exactly how it makes you feel

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    It's just an exhibitionist fetish or something. Lots of posts like that here.

    If he gives you lots of attention and really shows how much he loves you, then I'm sure he really means what he said about only wanting you.

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    • jessjane02
      9 years ago

      Thank u for making me feel better x

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