My boyfriend doesnt give me anything

I've been dating this guy for 3 months and he's amazing, but he's never given me anything. Ever since the first day I met him I've given him countless paintings, a vinyl, a record player, posters, and I want to give him more because I genuinely like doing it but I feel like i can't because he's never done anything like that for me. Don't get me wrong I'm not materialistic at ALL, and I don't even want him to give me tons of gifts, especially just because I've gaven him things. But it's just hard to tell if he loves me because he doesn't show it as much as I do. He's only boughten me a frosty before. IIN?

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  • jinx5543

    i just read a couple of comments and cried because it was funny

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    • CapriSun

      Lmao

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  • bob7

    what if he doesn't have anything to give you?

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    • CapriSun

      He kinda does, I mean for example I always mention how much I love his paintings but he's never painted a picture for me and I've painted/drawn at least 3 for him

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      • bob7

        you both are painters, that's so cute :O

        its probably because he thinks hes not good like you and ur just fake complimenting his paintings

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        • CapriSun

          Actually that's exactly what he thinks. Which I get, but it would still be nice to see him do something for me. I try my hardest to give him everything and make him happy.

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  • winedino

    what I would give to have such a sweet girl like you, I have a commonlaw that doesn't work and ignores me all day after we had a beautiful girl together. I'm the same way, I give gifts and want love, romance, and above all, reconition. Only guys that have other girls on the line don't appreciate what you do (or he has problems with endearment and appreciation), but it doesn't sound like the latter.... You need a better guy and the one you're with isn't going to get better. If you'd like to talk more privately, i'd like that....

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  • Boojum

    You say, "it's just hard to tell if he loves me because he doesn't show it as much as I do."

    Did you by any chance grow up in a family where you got less attention from your parents than you would have liked (maybe because both were working), but they made a point of giving you gifts?

    Some parents do this, often because they feel guilty about not spending more time with their child. The result can be a kid who, at some level, equates being loved with receiving physical stuff.

    I'm sure you know perfectly well that if a guy gave you a new car every Sunday, and diamond jewelry every other day of the week, that would not necessarily mean he loved you more than a guy who once bought you a frosty.

    That just isn't how love and people work.

    You say you're not materialistic, but it sounds like you could benefit from pondering why you feel the urge to give things, why you hope to receive things, and the relationship in your head between physical gifts and affection.

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    • CapriSun

      Thank you, that actually makes a lot of sense. However it's not necessarily the gifts I want as I've stated, I think I just want to see some reassurance he cares about me. If he just gave me a little drawing or something stupid it would make my entire month. He just doesn't really express his emotions

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  • Countess_Kittycat

    From what you said, I don't think this means he is using you, he may just be inexperienced when it comes to maintaining reciprocity within romantic relationships. Perhaps talking about it with him might be a good idea. You could say you would be really happy in receiving anything from him from time to time, and that you would really appreciate small gestures and gifts.

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    • CapriSun

      Yeah. I think so too, in fact the other night I was with him he asked me if I bought these glasses I wanted and he said "don't buy them, I want to buy them for both of us" so I can tell he's already starting to be more giving towards me

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  • _Mehhhh_

    Well firstly you've been together 3 months honey. You're doing a bit much giving him all these things, and expecting shit off him.

    Maybe when you get past the 6 months mark, if not a year, that's when I'd start expecting shit for my birthday or anniversary of getting together. Even then though I'm happy with small things, I'd rather just be happy to spend time together. That's because I'm genuinely not materialistic.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    You sounds a bit like his sugar mummy, I mean a record player within 3 months of dating? At least where I live those are EXPENSIVE. It's not a nice thought but I agree with the other comment that he might be using you.

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  • PenisNV

    Tell you what. Give him a blow job. That should do it.

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    • CapriSun

      I do give him blowjobs lmao

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      • Bipolarjetlag

        i will pray for you!

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      • Smithers

        They might not be good enough. It is very important to swallow!

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        • CapriSun

          I do that. You are both so ignorant and retarded

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          • No offense, but it seems like you're sucking his dick both literally and figuratively.

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            • CapriSun

              Lmao

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          • Smithers

            Thank you for your reply CapriSun. I think it's time to play your best card then, which is taking it in the butthole. This should get yourself a good reward. Enjoy!

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            • CapriSun

              Dude I do everything during sex, fr. You guys are actually stupid if you think sex is the solution to him not being very generous.

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  • Vcannon20

    ctfu im sorry but this is funny... leave his ass or just simply stop buying him things. HE GO LEARN TODAY!!!!!!!

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  • Nickvey

    sounds like you are moving to his home one gift at a time. have you done this befor ? or every time?

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  • RoseIsabella

    Maybe he's a jerk?

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  • Becky95

    Tell him He should give you stuff or you won't kiss him anymore?

    I had an ex boyfriend who was stingy and I told him I was going to stop doing anything sexual for him - until he started buying me nice things, or at least buying my cigarettes!!

    Not kidding: he started buying me two cartons a week every single week after that from them on!

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    • CapriSun

      I know you're trying to help and all but that's got to be the most fucked up and worst advice ever. I love giving him kisses and I love having sex even more. That's just another loss for me even if I did do that

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      • Reynoldss

        There are 5 Love languages that all of us understand.

        Touch
        Time
        Gifts
        Words
        Service

        Heres a free quiz where you can find out yours and your boy friends: http://www.5lovelanguages.com

        Every person in this world can feel these, but they prefer 1 or two. They know someone loves them when love is expressed in 1 of these 5 ways. HERES THE CATCH: People love other people the way they want to feel love. you obviously feel love through gifts. try to pick up on what his love language is and express your love that way, and bring it up with him

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    • SniperMoose

      Wtf.

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  • Sounds like he may be using you.

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    • CapriSun

      I dont think so. This is his first "serious" relationship apparently and I just don't think he's really used to somebody being so giving towards him

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      • Perhaps, but I'd be careful if I were you. If he actually expects you to be very generous with him, and doesn't do anything for you, consider again.

        Imo, courtesy should be a natural response with people you supposedly care about.

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