Have a discussion with him about why he has his standards.
Is it that he has a religious understanding that he should wait until marriage (or engagement), etc. Some people are like that; and admittedly I was like that in my later teenage years (and the conflict with my physical desires and my "religious standards" led me to almost commit suicide - and I rethought my standards and relaxed them as I worked out of that situation.
Or is it that he doesn't feel any need for sex, and this is more of a convenient excuse; or something else?
If he has no sex drive - you might wish to have his testosterone level checked. It might be OK, or it might be abnormally low - in which case that can be treated (however, it is likely to make him sterile while he takes Testosterone even though it will likely ignite his sex drive).
If his testosterone level is normal and he has no sex drive - then the two of you have some decision to make. He may be the most decent guy in the world - but you may need an active sex partner. That does not mean you cannot marry him - just the he would have to agree to an open marriage (with rules) so you can be sexually satisfied too.
Note on open marriages: Lots of research on this (and at least 5% of marriages are open). Those with real consideration of various issues and solid rules tend to work long term. Those without rules (a free for all) tend to fail. There are books on the issues and the types of things you need to come to an agreement on - and the need for really good communication. Let me know if you want some book titles (I don't have them handy now).
My boyfriend doesn’t want sex?
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Have a discussion with him about why he has his standards.
Is it that he has a religious understanding that he should wait until marriage (or engagement), etc. Some people are like that; and admittedly I was like that in my later teenage years (and the conflict with my physical desires and my "religious standards" led me to almost commit suicide - and I rethought my standards and relaxed them as I worked out of that situation.
Or is it that he doesn't feel any need for sex, and this is more of a convenient excuse; or something else?
If he has no sex drive - you might wish to have his testosterone level checked. It might be OK, or it might be abnormally low - in which case that can be treated (however, it is likely to make him sterile while he takes Testosterone even though it will likely ignite his sex drive).
If his testosterone level is normal and he has no sex drive - then the two of you have some decision to make. He may be the most decent guy in the world - but you may need an active sex partner. That does not mean you cannot marry him - just the he would have to agree to an open marriage (with rules) so you can be sexually satisfied too.
Note on open marriages: Lots of research on this (and at least 5% of marriages are open). Those with real consideration of various issues and solid rules tend to work long term. Those without rules (a free for all) tend to fail. There are books on the issues and the types of things you need to come to an agreement on - and the need for really good communication. Let me know if you want some book titles (I don't have them handy now).
I wish you the best with this...