My bother has blackmailed me

My parents are religious and work-aholics. They work very hard to put food on our table. My brother who is 1 year older than me found out I am gay and to keep the peace between our family, I allow him to verbally and physically abuse me. I dont want the family to fall apart but I also dont want black eyes and bruises anymore. I have been pidgonholed into this feeling that everything is always my fault, that my existsnce will be the downfall of our “family”. I want to end this cycle, but I am afraid of what happens after the cycle is broken.

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  • Ellenna

    Time you left home, that's not a healthy environment. Your brother shouldn't be doing that to you, not for any reason.

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    • I desperately want to leave, but dont have the wherewithal to do so. I just feel broken right now.

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      • Ellenna

        You need to get some support in this situation: school counsellor, crisis helpline .....

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        • Thankyou. I will look into what my school offers.

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  • MasterChives

    Damn that's cold.

    Well firstly next time he touches you. Fuck him up.

    Secondly. Tell them. Never let anyone let alone your brother. Dictate to you in such a manner.

    Sounds like a dick.

    Now as for your families reaction.as you know it will most likely be bad as you have stated. They are religious (religion tends to seem like it has all the answers to life)

    But tell them. Because at the end of the day. You can hold your head up high and know you are the one being honest not just with them. But most importantly with yourself.

    I usually add a joke or a quip but given the circumstances I don't think it is nessisary here..

    ...

    Oh OK maybe one..

    Did you ever wonder if Stevie Wonder knows he is black? Could you imagine if someone tells him and he is all like "what the fuck?!"

    Mild joke complete.

    Protect yourself.

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  • Mehereok1

    I agree..Catch him by surprise one day or night, and return all the black eyes and bruises. Corner him and don't stop until you draw blood and he's on the floor in tears, begging forgiveness. Then beat him up more just to send a message.

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    • lordofopinions

      With a baseball bat!

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    • I dont want to do that. Drawing blood will only lead to tattling to mom. (Tried once). I want to hit him where it really hurts but there are too many what if’s running through my head right now.

      He has mastered the art of spinning the truth.

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  • IrishPotato

    Tell them and report your brother to the authorities. If nothing happens after that, fuck him up.

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  • andithoughtiwasweird

    let the bastard tell them you are gay and then deny it. he will be the one in trouble for suggesting such 'blasphemous ideas.' spin it in such a way to make it sound like he is the one with the dirty mind. but dont call him gay though. that could be problematic.

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  • lordofopinions

    You and a friend could catch him awsy from the house and beat the living shit out of him and tell him if he snitches or bothers you again this will be like a warmup compared to what he will get next time.

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  • LionsMane

    Tough question. When I was young, my brother did similar stuff. He made me sign a contract so that I would never sit in the front seat. Said he would kill me. Shot me with a BB gun from 5 feet away. Bunch of dumb stuff. Always made fun of me, pushed the shower curtains every time I'd shower. I guess in a way I got lucky. My parents were divorced and he was a teenager and lived only with my father. I was just a boy and attended day care and lived with my mom every other week. Those breaks away from him made my life much better. If you are 100% sure your parents would disown you, maybe it is time to seek refuge elsewhere. It's still a possibility to just talk to your parents first at least but I dont know your parents obviously. Sometimes, just pushing through situations can lead you to a light somewhere.

    You could file a police report against your brother. If he doesn't have damming proof, you could always just adamantly deny you're gay to your parents. You have to figure over the course of your life that they will find out eventually if you view yourself as gay.

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    • Shit hit the fan, but my good ole buddy bro got caught red handed and got the boot. I’m still recovering from that dipshits actions but my parents were totally supportive and on my side the entire time these past 2 months. They sent him to live with my brute uncle while he gets therapy for his “mental issues”.

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  • cipro

    Poison his food. Hurt him as he hurt you.

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  • jethro

    Smack him in the face a couple of times with a big cast iron skillet. That will make him stop.

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    • I’m really tempted, but I dont think I have it in me

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      • lordofopinions

        If you were a guy I would tell you to grow a pair.

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  • Hello_Me_Again

    How old are you?

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    • 20

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  • Nabeelkhan

    Give a fuck to your brother

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