When I first read the title, my immediate reaction was, "does it have to do with looks?"
It is very shallow and superficial, but it is a harsh reality. Many women do this unfortunately.
I recall one of my girlfriends' friends being invited to be in a bridal shower. She was much larger than the other bridesmaids, and her dress was even a different color than the others'. It made her stick out and she did not 'flow well' with the rest of the group. The bride, though image-concious, had a heart. Instead of losing this larger girl as the bridesmaid, she had all of the other 3 girls' dresses altered to look like hers since her dress was the only option. So then she fit in better, was more confident, and the ceremony went terrific.
Some brides need a dose of reality. They need to realize the true meaning of a wedding and the celebration of the union rather than focusing on whether or not their ass looks tight and their friends look bangin. Sounds like your friend is focused on all the wrong things.
You can either say something to her or drift yourself away from her so she will catch the hint. You cannot go through life treating people that way and expecting them to like you. You cannot be the doormat that allows the behavior, either.
Funnily enough we ended up drifting apart. I tried to help her make her invitations etc but she didn't really want my help. She actually ended up having troubles with her fiancée and turned away from me even more. The wedding got called off and she hasn't spoken to me since. I've actually found that because our friendship had started in early highschool (and we are now 6 years out of highschool) we have all changed and this was the push that was needed to show me we had just grown apart and had better friends that we had made out of school.
My best friend is getting married & doesn't want me in bridal party
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When I first read the title, my immediate reaction was, "does it have to do with looks?"
It is very shallow and superficial, but it is a harsh reality. Many women do this unfortunately.
I recall one of my girlfriends' friends being invited to be in a bridal shower. She was much larger than the other bridesmaids, and her dress was even a different color than the others'. It made her stick out and she did not 'flow well' with the rest of the group. The bride, though image-concious, had a heart. Instead of losing this larger girl as the bridesmaid, she had all of the other 3 girls' dresses altered to look like hers since her dress was the only option. So then she fit in better, was more confident, and the ceremony went terrific.
Some brides need a dose of reality. They need to realize the true meaning of a wedding and the celebration of the union rather than focusing on whether or not their ass looks tight and their friends look bangin. Sounds like your friend is focused on all the wrong things.
You can either say something to her or drift yourself away from her so she will catch the hint. You cannot go through life treating people that way and expecting them to like you. You cannot be the doormat that allows the behavior, either.
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Funnily enough we ended up drifting apart. I tried to help her make her invitations etc but she didn't really want my help. She actually ended up having troubles with her fiancée and turned away from me even more. The wedding got called off and she hasn't spoken to me since. I've actually found that because our friendship had started in early highschool (and we are now 6 years out of highschool) we have all changed and this was the push that was needed to show me we had just grown apart and had better friends that we had made out of school.