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I consent before I sleep, but he gets very turned on from it. Starting to find it weird. He really enjoys it while I’m sleep. Sometimes I wake up, other times I won’t and I’ll wake up and either be a little sore or half dressed and knee he did it. But I consented to it. I am just worried that when he may possibly get a girlfriend she may not be so accepting.
My relationship was similar to yalls with my wife when we were teens. I didnt fuck her in her sleep but she was my best friend and we would still have sex and even while we dated others. Ended up marrying her believe it or not. Not exactly romantic but worked for us.
If you said you'd like a piece of chocolate cake with your coffee this afternoon, do you believe that means you must always have chocolate cake with every coffee you ever drink? Do you think it means you have no right to ever decide that, actually, you don't want to ever eat chocolate cake again?
You have the right to change your mind about everything, and consent for anything can be withdrawn at any time. You even have the right to say that you want sex to stop while you're in the middle of having it.
It sounds like the guy is pushing boundaries well beyond what's reasonable. If you're waking up sore, it sounds like he's being far too energetic way too fast or shoving himself into you when you're not lubricated; either is an inconsiderate and disrespectful thing to do.
If you're not happy with how things are going, explain what's bothering you, and ask him to change his ways. If he doesn't, then it's clear he doesn't respect you, and you should dump him.
As for how his possible future girlfriends might deal with him, that's really not your concern. He and they will have to negotiate and come to an agreement about what they both find acceptable, just as you should be doing with him right now.