My best friend.

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I have a problem that I need help with. I have a female friend (we have known each other almost 20 years). We have never hooked up or even came close to it. I started once to ask her out after we were both single but then I found out that while on the rebound she went and got married. I have had sexual thoughts about her but have never actually acted on them. Is it ok to think about her like that? The reason I think we never hooked up was because we know each other so well and I was afraid that it would ruin our friendship if it didn't work. Should I tell her how I feel? She is happily married with 2 kids and a third on the way but it's been bugging me a lot lately. What do I do?

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  • kelili
    11 years ago

    You should do nothing. The mady is happily married and has two children. Do you really want to make a whole family sad just to satisfy some sexual desire? Thhink about it, you're old enough to know what you should do.

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    • bellasky56
      11 years ago

      That ship has sailed.... your kind of late ...don't cha think?

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  • PapzBSlim
    11 years ago

    Please refrain. You are two children and a husband too late.

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    • DuckieElf
      11 years ago

      Two and a half children*

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  • shin10912
    11 years ago

    I understand how you can be irritated. but like you stated, "she's happy." why try to ruin it? don't you think it's selfish for someone to ruin your life because s/he couldn't handle it? It's tough situation for you, but gotta get through it buddy. hope you can get over it. good luck

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  • ccjigsaw
    11 years ago

    Masterbate over it and move on. She's got a husband and kids, even if you could have her, you shouldn't.

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  • DarkBlue
    11 years ago

    Don't tell her anything, it will get you nowhere.

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  • Who_Fan4Life
    11 years ago

    Grab someone's best friend, have sex with her and then be like ''This is what you COULD have had with me all these years.''

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  • RealMelloman
    11 years ago

    Don't see the bad.

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  • hermione
    11 years ago

    don't you dare tell her, not only will it ruin your friendship but put all sorts of doubts and what ifs in her head it would put a strain on her marriage and on her pregnancy, its horrible for you but its cruel for her, you missed the boat, the time to tell her has passed be a true friend and support her, if you cant do this stay away.

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  • Beowulfbrol
    11 years ago

    Forget her and live your life.she's being screwed alot..what the heck do you still want from her?

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  • spidercrowblaze18762
    11 years ago

    (NO OFFENSE), but i dnt knww why do i feel like laughing at ur story, evn though its nt funny, no offense again..

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  • HisGirl2012
    11 years ago

    yeah.... don't tell her. You will not only get her very mad, you will ruin that relationship with her.It's kinda strange that you think you love her like that, but at the same time, normal. But dont you DARE tell her that you had sexual thoughts about her... Thats kida perdofile

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  • Francophile22
    11 years ago

    Keep it to yourself; nothing good can come out of it by telling her at this late stage.

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  • ruby_z
    11 years ago

    I would say for you to get away from that friendship because you will end up making a total fool of yourself and putting this woman in a very uncomfortable position.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    11 years ago

    I'm not planning on telling her anything. I'm not out to ruin her marriage or her happiness in anyway at all. I was just wondering how to handle the situation. She knows that I often thought about dating her but I was always afraid that if we broke up it would hurt our friendship. I just never told her that I had sexual thoughts is all.

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    • plum6
      11 years ago

      why not tell her then if you are so sure it won't lead to anything?The way I see it there are two possible scenario's:

      1. If she tells you that you are being rediculous you will at least have some closure. Granted, you will feel like an idiot for a while, but since you have known eachother for this long I doubt that it would affect her behaviour towards you.

      2. If a miracle happens and she feels the same way you will be able to plan the next move together. In this case you should not feel like a homewrecker since the woman must have felt unhappy in the first place knowing that she did not marry the guy she really wanted, which would eventually affect the marriage anyway.

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