My 13 year old nephew is obsessed with me

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‌I have just turned 20 and my nephew is 13. He's way too fond of me for absolutely no reason. I'm saying absolutely no reason because I don't really talk to him or approach anyone to talk that much at all. I keep quiet most of the time. It has come to the point where he touches my hair constantly when he's around me. Yesterday at the mall he kept pulling and touching my hair even after I asked him not to do it. He also pulled the hairband from my hair and threw it away. I was boiling with anger but still I didn't say anything to him. I'm more mad at his sister and my half-sister who is his maternal aunt because they didn't even tell him to stop doing it to me. We're not close family, they came here for vacation and I was only accompanying them. At one point he held my hand which he wouldn't let go for hours and hugged me tightly. What should I do? Is it normal behaviour? This makes me extremely uncomfortable and I can't even say it out loud to them.

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  • cupcake_wants
    4 years ago

    He has a big crush on you. I agree with boo jum though, you need to just push him out of your personal space. Don't put up with it.

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  • RoseIsabella
    4 years ago

    Is he from the trailer park?

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    • Sad18yo
      4 years ago

      Sweet home ala...

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  • CDmale4fem
    4 years ago

    It may come to the point that you may have to raise your voice and really let the nephew know you mean what you say. Maybe for him holding your hand, give him like an hour a day and then done so that way he can understand that when others say "that's enough" then they mean what they say. It sounds like he has been a spoiled kid able to do and get away with whatever he does and wants to do. That would really puss me off too.

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    As a rule, thirteen-year-old kids aren't all that tuned in to the social niceties and boys that age can be obnoxious little shits.

    To be honest, this question comes across as a little trollish, since I don't understand why you had to tolerate him holding your hand "for hours" or hugging you. Why not just yank your hand out of his sweaty grip and shove the little bastard away if he's invading your personal space? As for the hair-touching, what was stopping you from telling him in emphatic terms not to do it and slapping his hand away if he did it again?

    If what you describe did indeed actually happen, then I'd suggest that the biggest problem is not actually your creepy little nephew, but you having a distorted idea of what you have to tolerate in order to be hospitable and a lack of self-respect which means you allow jerks to violate your personal space, say nothing at the time, but then seethe afterwards.

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    • Mammal-lover
      4 years ago

      Yea pretty much

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  • bigbudchonga
    4 years ago

    I think he likes you. I can see how it would be annoying, but personally I'd be flattered.

    If it's really bothering you then you need to say so. Obviously his feelings will be hurt, but you'll be comfortable again, and won't have to put up with him. Alternatively, if you can put up with it, wait until they leave; he'll probably grow out of it in a year or two, and if you don't see him that often then it means he probably won't do it by the next time they visit.

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  • sissycakes
    4 years ago

    He is just annoying you and probably clingy. It is no big deal. Boys never have crushes on their cousins.

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  • Shiki
    4 years ago

    My niece and other children did this constantly to me, pulling hair,brushing my hair,hugging,kissing, climbing me and wanting to play with me all the time.
    Either children hate me or I am like am magnet for them and this happens x.x

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  • PunkChangedTheWorld
    4 years ago

    Float a loud nasty fart in front of him. He'll quit

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  • ellnell
    4 years ago

    He has a crush on you.
    You should speak to his parents about this if it bothers you.
    I can't believe they're not telling him to stop it by their own accord and 13 is a bit old to not be aware that acting that way when you have a crush on someone is not normal.
    Have they taught him manners at all??

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