My 34 year old married german teacher is in love with me,is it normal?

I mean I know it isn't normal at all!!!
But I just can't help it.
I'm 19 years old.
I speak english,persian and german
I also sing sooo professional and play guitar and piano.
The day he heard my voice,was the day he fell in love with me.
I never had feelings for him
But when he started flirting with me,
I started to feel some feelings that I should have never felt.
I feel sooo sorry for myself.
I'm not a kinda girl to do these things.
I have a boyfriend for god's sake!
And I love him
He's so kind and awesome.
Idk what the hell's wrong with me.
My teacher just officially asked me out tonight and asked me to be his girlfriend!
I haven't gone out with him yet.
I don't wanna ruin his Marriage.
Please help me.
My feelings for him are growing everyday.
We chat everyday,everynight
Even in the classroom.
The funny thing is that he's married one of his students!
They've been married for 6 years now.
She used to be one of his students 7 years ago.
She's not beautiful .
I am young and beautiful . So obviously he just wants me for sex
I mean seriously,why would he wanna be with a 19 year old girl???
And he's set his wife's pic on his wallpaper.

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  • Golapicus

    Do you really want to have a relationship with a guy that will cheat on his wife?

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    • redrainbow22

      Seriously, whos to say he wont just cheat a few years after.

      And then her poor boyfriend has his heart broken

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    • BlackPetunia

      Not really!!!!!
      The guy that cheats on a wife he loves,will cheat on everyone!
      Even me.
      I know that.
      He's an asshole
      But I'm just confused

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      • redrainbow22

        Your confused because you are having feelings for him.

        Its natural to feel attracted to someone of the opposite sex. But obviously that doesnt mean you have to do anything just because you're feeling that way.

        Know where your heart really lies with :)

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        • BlackPetunia

          Thank you soooo much

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          • redrainbow22

            yea :)

            hope everything is going good for you!

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        • redrainbow22

          And I meant obviously with your boyfriend, not the creepy guy or whatever

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  • RoseIsabella

    Tell him no when he asks you out. Tell him you have a boyfriend, and remind him that he's married. If he gives you a hard time go to the department head. Do the right thing.

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    • BlackPetunia

      Yeah I should probably do that,
      There are only three weeks left until this class is over.
      He's trying to be my teacher again for the next Semester.
      That's bad.

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      • RoseIsabella

        Yeah, find a different teacher for the next semester. Like I said, talk to the department head of the foreign language department at your school. Is there a counselor at your school that you can talk to about this mess?

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        • BlackPetunia

          It's not a school actually, it's a foreign language institute.
          He teaches me german.
          If I talk to someone about this,they're gonna tell his wife and he's gonna be ruined.
          I'll just stop this myself.

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          • redrainbow22

            Good.

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          • RoseIsabella

            Okay.

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    • redrainbow22

      I agree. Id really hate to see her boyfriend's poor heart broken

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      • RoseIsabella

        ... and regardless of what the stupid instructor wants he's still a married man! I'm currently in a committed relationship, but the truth is even if I were single and available I would not be interested in a married man or even one who had a girlfriend, because child, Rosie don't never shop at the second hand shop. You know I like thangs that are fresh and new, and most of all I like thangs that are mine!

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        • redrainbow22

          good for you!

          lol i like you Rosie :) i think youd be a cool friend

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          • The_Loitering_Creep

            You be careful little girl. Yes, Rosie is cool. But, she brings creepiness out in men. That last thing you should do is attract creeps like Rosie does. She hates creeps as much as you do.

            I am not attracted to your sweet innocence. But you are in danger of getting corrupted at this website. And, if you do I'm going to be pissed off. REALLY PISSED OFF!!!

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            • redrainbow22

              rose dont attract no creeps, shes cool like that

              and dont worry about me, im fine

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          • RoseIsabella

            Thanks.

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  • Sizzlesizz1

    No don't go for it. U love ur boyfriend he's married just don't.

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  • Zorak

    This can't be real.....

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    • RoseIsabella

      I hope it isn't real!

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      • Zorak

        It seems like a real mess up there.

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        • RoseIsabella

          Yeah, I flushed stuff down the pipes that was less messy.

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    • BlackPetunia

      It is...

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  • CozmoWank

    Tell him you only date French teachers.

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    • BlackPetunia

      😂😂😂

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  • redrainbow22

    You sound like a good girl who doesnt need to be tainted like some other sluts out there!

    Id hate to see a good relationship turn to heartbreak

    You have to help yourself, and tell him you have a boyfriend, and switch classes if you have to.

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    • BlackPetunia

      Thank you.
      Yes ,
      This class will be over in three weeks.
      But he's trying to be my teacher again for the next Semester!
      And we don't have much choices to switch our classes.
      We always have two options,
      I can only go to these classes on Sundays,Tuesdays and Thursdays.
      I've got other classes the other days.
      And he's the only teacher for those days.
      Last night I tried to bring his wife up,I said you're still married ...
      He wanted to murder me.
      He got sooo angry and said :
      What do u mean??
      U mean why do I text u?or call u??
      Do want me to stop texting??😡

      Exactly like this.
      And you know..I was looking for a sign...
      If I just notice that he knows he's doing a mistake,I'm gonna stop talking to him
      That's why I brought his wife up.
      I was looking for him to say yeah you're right,I have a wife and that's an issue,we should stop talking.
      But he didn't say that.
      He just got angy

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      • RoseIsabella

        He sounds like a selfish, egotistical, narcissistic asshole.

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        • redrainbow22

          who doesnt deserve a wife if hes gonna try to cheat on her

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          • RoseIsabella

            Amen to that!

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        • BlackPetunia

          😂😂😂😂

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      • redrainbow22

        awww theres gotta be something you can do!

        i would honestly just stop all those classes if it was gonna make me cheat on my boyfriend.

        ewwww theres something wrong with him, i would get out of there if i were you

        theres no reason why you have to deal with that

        i would just stop talking to him already, sounds like a creep

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        • BlackPetunia

          Thank you so much,your ideas really help me

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          • redrainbow22

            yup :) hope things go good for ya

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      • Meris

        This sounds like a situation that could get very messy. If I were you I'd contact the higher ups at the school and report him for harassment or if that's too extreme just ask to be put in a different classes then make it crystal clear that your not interested via text or w/e and move on. I once made the mistake of having sex with a married person and it backfired horribly wouldn't wanna see someone else do the same.

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        • BlackPetunia

          Thank you so much

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  • Akio

    I feel like she's going to get raped and murdered if she denies him.

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    • BlackPetunia

      Oh gosh he's not that scaryyyy!!!
      😂

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    • redrainbow22

      even bigger reason she should get out of there :o

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      • The_Loitering_Creep

        Oh, little girl. I get the feeling that the situation is getting creepy for her. Do you get that feeling?

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        • redrainbow22

          i get the feeling you keep following me around lol

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          • The_Loitering_Creep

            Yes. I am following you around. Remember that I work to make the world better thru creepiness. To that end, I try to teach little girls like you how to get rid of creeps like me. The best thing to say is, "FUCK OFF CREEP, GO SLEEP UNDER A BRIDGE." RoseIsabella gets rid of creeps all the time. Ask her what works. Until then, I want you to read the quote again out loud. Mmmkay? Mmmkay.

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  • haizy000

    This is completely normal.
    It does not matter that, If someone is married then he/she cannot love someone. It might happen he may leave her wife for your love.

    I'll just say Enjoy till the time you are with him. But make sure the these things should be kept as a big secret b/w you both. Never ever let somebody know about this. otherwise it is gonna ruin your relationship with your bf.

    As per these are considered wrong, My point of view is that things can only be wrong if someone unknown or some other person knows about it and they know that this is wrong.

    Based on your scenario, if your bf ad her wife came to know about this then only it will be wrong, otherwise it is completely fine.

    You can have your relationship to a particular point. Rest is your choice what to do.

    Last thing Can I have your contact details?

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    • redrainbow22

      hes a flimsy guy who doesnt deserve to hold a wife if he's just gonna jump from wife to wife every two years

      he doesnt sound like a good guy

      just sounds like a pervert, always hoping onto the next young girl he can find

      THIS IS WRONG! are you really trying to say its not?!!?

      you have a very weird mind set. and stop trying to get her contact information, she has a boyfriend!

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    • BlackPetunia

      Thank you sooooo much,
      That was nice to say.
      And why do you want my contact details?

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      • haizy000

        You are most welcome.
        Well! I just want to get in touch with you that's it. So that I can explain you in a much better way

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      • redrainbow22

        why are you thanking him? this guy kinda sounds like a creep as well

        saying "Rest is your choice what to do"

        Noooooooo! she shouldnt just choose to cheat on her boyfriend!

        this is awful advice, and quite sickening

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        • haizy000

          Just give me a break dude. I didn't say anything wrong. This is what I think. If you think that this is not good then I am not forcing you to do so.

          That's why I wrote "Rest is your choice".
          Grow up. stop thinking that you are always right.

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        • BlackPetunia

          I was thanking him for taking some time to read this.
          That's respectable.

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          • redrainbow22

            Doesn't matter if hes just gonna give you bad advice

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  • Carlton03

    This is disgusting, this is a bad story, tell him one more time and make it very clear your not gonna pursue anything!!!!!
    He obviously doesn't care about his wife that much so probably no point mentioning her, he's just a dog cheater!!!!! Not sure what to do if he keeps pestering you, you should not be thinking about doing anything anywat!!!!! You have a boyfriend!!! He has a wife!!!! Just be careful not to engrage him badly, he could be not all there upstairs!!! Or make a silly rage split second decision, people been bashed or killed over this sort of crap, just be careful girl, hope this helps a bit, you sound like a good girl who would not cheat or do this!!!

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    • BlackPetunia

      Thank u sooooo much

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      • Carlton03

        Yourrrrrr soooo welcome :-)

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  • Tsubakimasiato

    You need to break it down to him, your not interested

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  • mr.artiste

    As messed as it gets ...

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  • Dink_219085_

    Aren't you worried that he will dump you in a few years for another student? Seems too fishy to me. You are also extremely young, and well, he's not. When a person is older, age does not matter because they are no longer a risk as a target of pedophilia or perverts in general. Yes, you are an adult. But you are extremely young, and possibly still in the target area. Just be careful.

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    • BlackPetunia

      Excactly!!! I thought about it too!!!!
      He's gonna dumb me for another student

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  • Murun

    Why would he just want you for sex? No logic there.

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    • redrainbow22

      Because he's already married and is asking her to be his girlfriend.

      He obviously doesnt care about a loyal relationship and just sounds like a pervert and a cheater

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    • BlackPetunia

      So what does he want me for?

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      • Meris

        He just wants you for sex. You might fuck for a bit but then he'll get bored and move onto a different girl. He sounds like that sort of guy

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        • BlackPetunia

          You're right

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  • EccentricWeird

    If you were 15 I'd ask if his name was Macron.

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