My 36 year old boyfriend hangs out with our 17 year old male neighbor

will your bf buy me some booze?

Maybe they get high together and play ps3... Sound like fun

I agree with Ollieo above. And, always room for error, but it is unusual and unacceptable for a man to remain uncommitted to his girlfriend not to marry her as she is mother to his children. Also, what type of behavior is this for a father of several years. My dear take your head out of the sand. You've married a bum who won't work or commit to you, who would rather run around with school boys than be home with his children. You probably deserve better. You must not think do or you would have zero tolerance for this scenario.

This is a funny situation in my opinion.

I just finished writing a script on three families that all are connected and live off of each others problems. Though your situation is not the same as my characters it is very similar.

Anyway I won't go into detail but one of the husbands winds up being gay in the end.

I think you should question more than what they are doing, instead question how they go about doing these things. Why doesn't your husband and the kids dad hang out?

If he is going out of his way to see this kid or answer text messages there's definitely something wrong he should be going out of his way for you.

are they having a secret gay relationship? sounds too friendly to me texting each other all the time!

seximal91 said it all.

Your BF is kidding himself; being admired in his own mind, and the kid is using him to buy booze and smokes.

If the kid [or any of his friends] kills someone while drunk driving, YOUR BF goes to prison for manslaughter, and then he will have a NEW GF, named BUBBA.

I see nothing wrong with it. I grew up where there no other kids my age. everyone was 20 years older than me. I actually learned a lot from them. I wouldn't panic just yet.

what about a grown man texting a young girl? In his 30s and this girl is now in college but wasnt at the start of their friendship? He said she is like a sister to him but he acts so giddy, so I wasnt sure if its a crush or if hes just really immature? I know you dont always have feelings for the person that you are around who you joke and tease with, sometimes people just need an outlet to act younger, but I know others may perceive it as very strange.They dont get it. This person also crushes on me and is very open about that so its very weird when he texts me to tell me he is joking around with this young lady via text.I thought he was talking about a crush but he said it was someone who is like a sister to him.

If he hasnt worked in ov 2 years its because he doesn't want to be working right now, not because of the economy. It looks like he's not manning up to his responsibilities? It's not very manly of him to let you be the sole bread winner. Maybe the pressure of working and raising a family is too much for him and the 17 yr old along with the video games is an escape. And you're ok with him buying smokes & booze for the kid? Does that mean he'll do the same for your kids? Get rid of the loser! Also, the kid's dad should put a stop to this. You said he seems normal but it isn't normal to be ok with ur kid hanging out with a man twice his age. If you let it continue then you have to be prepared to accept 1/2 the blame if something wrong does happen along the way, either in an illegal or sexual way. I'm sure it's crossed the minds of your family and friends, even you whether you care to admit it or not. Good luck sweetie. If you need a penpal to chat, just let me know.

Your 17 year old neighbor is a rent boy for cigarettes, find me another case Watson, post haste!

It takes a village. Disregarding the employment situation, there is nothing wrong with any two humans of any age to hang out with each other and become friends. The fact that everyone is suspicious about this is more fucked up than anything else about the story. People seem to think the worst when adults hang out with kids which is a big reason our culture is so fearful.

THATS SO GAY lol

i think it is a little weird but not outrages. when i was a junior in high school i would sometimes hang out with people much older than myself like people in their 40's. mind you i knew them from work and i have known them for a while before we started hanging out, but if he is just into games and so is the kid it isn't to bad of a problem. now since the kid is kind of using him to get stuff i could see why the kid hasn't said anything but the fact that your "man" thinks its alright make's me question his level of maturity and the fact that he is kinda naive.also the fact that he hasn't had a job in 2 years and is the father of one kid and has another on the way he should probably get his act together. if he had a job and was faithful to you and maybe every once in a while hung with the kid to play ps3 or something then it wouldn't be so bad. but i would sit down and have a long talk with him about this whole situation! btw does he even look for a job at all or is he kinda like avoiding it? this kid could just be a excuse not to have to get a job?

BTW, if THIS is what he's using to make himself feel better, tell him to get off his ass and get a job. THAT will make him feel better. And what kind of doormat are YOU? Can you relly afford to support him AND 2 kids??? Idiots.

hmmmm not sure... but frankly I would feel the same as you do... there is a big age gap there but maybe they have a connection..what kind?? you have to find out

I'm more concerned that he is staying home hanging out while you're working. Instead of hanging out with a 17 year old he should be out looking for work. The fact that you are working to support the family sucks. It dosn't take 2 years to find work. It might be Mac Donalds, but it's work. I wouldn't tolerate a man who didn'nt support me. And yes, it's weird that hehangs out with a 17 year old, but what grown men are hanging around playing video games all day.

Why do you call the man you have lived with for over 7 years who fathered 2 of your children your boy friend? I ask because that seems like a pretty marginal designation - he's your husband (common law).

And he has been unemployed for 2 years - so he is on the margins there. You say it is the economy. So what is he doing to a) find work; b) upgrade his skills to get work.

And he spends all his time with this 17 year old, and hanging out.

Well I find all of this odd - the over-involvement with the 17 year old is the icing on the cake. Not outrageous,mind you, but odd.

I think the thing your husband & this 17 year old mainly have in common is their levels of maturity, way too little in responsibilities & way too much much time on their hands.

You are expecting & will be going on maternity soon. Isn't it about time your bf Peter Pan got his act together?

Time to put an end to this charade in never never land and have a great big talk with - yes - your husband.