Mother's friend asks me how much for sex - grossed out years later.

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Hello,

I'm curious to see how normal you all think my mother's reaction was to the following incident.

Some background:I was in a dire financial situation a few years ago and took a summer job looking after a elderly lady to help make ends meet & pay for school. I found this job thru my mom's best friend, whom I will call R. Every week or so, I had to go meet my mom's friend to pick up my paycheck. One day, I'm discussing with R how bad things are for me financially, when this guy flat out asks me how much will I be willing to take so I accept sleeping with him. I was shocked, insulted and stormed out of the place. I have never spoken to this guy since then.

I spoke to my mom about it. She in turn called R and asked him what happened. R lied to my mom and told her that I was mistaken, that I was extremely unstable emotionally and that this was all a product of my imagination.

Bottom line, my mother believed him. Can you believe???

I always get a giggle out of the fact that years later they still talk on the phone, meet regularly and flat out continued with their friendship as if nothing ever happened.

Is this normal behavior? As now the mother of a young girl, I cannot comprehend how my mother would either(a) not believe me and (b) still continue to be friends with this individual. I'd love to hear your thoughts. Thank you.

FYI - I was about 25 at the time of his advance.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago | pl

    Yeah that is gross. i cant believe your mum took his word over yours, thats awful. have you tried discussing it with her?

    I completely understand why you're grossed out, once a stranger offered me money for sex and its affected the way I dress and see myself ever since.

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  • Gidget
    13 years ago | pl

    thats fucked up

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  • Annon12345
    10 years ago | pl

    Charge him for say around $400
    Then say your in to BDSM
    Then say you will sleep with him in your mums house
    When your mom walks through the doors and sees her friend whipping her daughter start crying

    She will probably think its rape, stop talking to him and you earn money for it.
    Its foolproof

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  • pixie_dust
    12 years ago | pl

    if the right opportunity presents itself, u should tell your mom exactly what ur telling us. you could say something like, "that man is a vile piece of trash. im deeply disgusted that you still associate with him and above all, you didnt believe me when I told you what he said to me!" if u really mean it and look her in the eye, she should be able to see its for real. shes in denial, and more than likely she's already had a physical relationship with him so it was hard to swallow.

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  • b454
    13 years ago | pl

    Maybe your mom had a kinky romance with R and didn't want to mess it up. Either way, not cool of her at all

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  • the_owl
    13 years ago | pl

    That's a great post. Your mother believed him because she wanted to. She chose to ignore reality so she could continue seeing R. My old roommate was abused, and her mother didn't believe her for years. It's not normal, but unfortunately it's common.
    I'm sorry for you. But happy to see you have built your own life and can identify the disfunction in your past so as not to do such a thing to your own child.

    Don't be too hard on your mother. They make many mistakes! If we learn from the mistakes, they make us better people.

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  • SamuraiPeeper
    13 years ago | pl

    Why does this type of thing happen so much, I really don't understand? It's so terrible.

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  • cooldavid
    14 years ago | pl

    People will believe anything if thats what they WANT to believe. She didn't want to believe that her friend would come up with such a tactless offer, and the easier explanation is that is was a misunderstanding.

    Honestly if he was an adult and so were you then I don't see the problem with the proposition. Whether its driving to work or sitting in a meeting, we all do things we don't want to do for the sake of $$.

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    • Lilyzapottee
      14 years ago | pl

      Thank you all for your opinions and responses. It is nice to see the outsider's perspective.

      Cooldavid,I wanted to comment on your last statement. I actually disclosed my age at the time of the incident for that reason, I was an adult.

      I agree, we do things we don't want for the sake of money. However, most women will find a problem with the proposition. We all do whatever we want with our bodies , however, I think it is very disrespecful and offensive to ask someone to have sex for money.

      Irrelevant of how the "proposition" might be perceived, what I question more is my mother's reaction. Thanks again for commenting!

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  • cakeisnottheanswer
    14 years ago | pl

    Ugh, how awful, they still talk and everything?....How could you not trust your own daughter about something like that?

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  • [Old Memory]
    14 years ago | pl

    She didn't believe it - not very supportive of you.

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  • PoisonFlowers
    14 years ago | pl

    Not normal. That is shocking. I find it hard to believe that your mother wouldn't press further on it. He was in effect saying that you were having a hallucination or something and your mother believed him. Damn...

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  • hotchickie81
    14 years ago | pl

    Wow, I can't believe she would believe her friend over her own daughter. Doesn't seem right to me...

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  • Xro18
    12 years ago | pl

    Try to set him up to a trap so she will find out :)

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