Mother in law hates me?

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Is it normal for her to literally hate me because we have different religious views? She told me I was a bitch, I was stupid, ignorant and she has said to my face, "I DESPISE YOU GIRL, I DESPISE YOU SO MUCH. LEAVE MY HOUSE."

I never did a thing to her. She simply asked me if I believed in God and I said no. Should I have lied? I don't get it. She told me to leave her son alone but we've been together for 5 years now and I love him as does he to me.

The thing is, whenever I call his mom a bitch, he somewhat agrees but then gets mad when I keep it up. I dunno what to do, I'm going crazy, I'm madly depressed and I feel like absolute shit.

See, I never met his mother until now because he told me she wouldn't get along with me...and I didn't believe him until now. I met her last summer, but I'm still depressed over it because she has on her facebook page "I hate nonchristians" - she added it about a week after I left her house and It haunts my dreams and she refuses to talk to me on the phone or online :(

I lost 29 pounds because I can't eat, I cry myself to sleep. My boyfriend was in another college for a while so I couldnt even have him comfort me. He just got home, but he needs to visit his mother in the other state again and I have to go because he will be there for 1 month...

Help me please. I am seriously depressed. I just want to be happy :(

-I call him my boyfriend because we didn't get the official engagement rings yet and we didn't marry, but we plan to marry in 2011-

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  • bodiewangler
    13 years ago | pl

    Welp, your MiL is very judgmental, as many devoutly religious people are. You need your fiance to man up and handle the situation, tell her that he loves you and you are going to be a part of his life permanently and she needs to accept your religious views. He might need to cut her out of your family events if she doesn't shape up, cause that's a BS way to treat you.

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  • hotmama50
    13 years ago | pl

    is she catholic? i know my grandmother was the same way. she doesn't have to agree with you or like you or even love you but she should be woman enough to be civil because you will be marrying her son!

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago | pl

      i agree with hotmama50, dont let it bother you... and you know what you should do... tpye "bible contradictions" in google and print something (reliable) off and send it to her in post... only jkin... but rly just dont talk to her either... however dont insult her infront of your bf, bcuz eventually he will see how much of a bitch his mom is being to you.

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  • lewlew80
    13 years ago | pl

    Normal, Its something about mothers clashing with their sons' mates, never the daugters' mates, just the sons.

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  • Painfulnote
    13 years ago | pl

    She shouldn't hate you although you have different religion she should respect you
    as her daughter can't say she have to
    'love you'

    but that don't give her the right to hate you
    you should try to get her heart find a way!
    good luck

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  • inlove89
    13 years ago | pl

    Obviously she's the ignorant one. It's sad that religion is keeping you two from being family. I would just try to avoid her at all costs and don't talk about her with your bf. He should understand that you don't wanna visit her or have her in your house. Just live your life and forget that crazy bitch as much as u can!

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  • yayasaga
    13 years ago | pl

    Omg some people r crazy! But you should seriously reconsider your relationship and getting married. When you have children it will be harder. I'm sure your bf and his family will want to be around the kids. It's stress you won't want then trust me!

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    • [Old Memory]
      13 years ago | pl

      BAD ANSWER!!! YOU FAIL!!!

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  • gowila
    13 years ago | pl

    Why do you care if she doesn't like you

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  • boitoy5
    13 years ago | pl

    i see she thinks that if he marries you he wont live forever on a paradise shes just scared for her son. but honestly if you thought somebody you loved and raised for 18-20+ years and loved with all you heart you would walk across a mile of broken glass for them you wouldn't want them to go to hell but she is overreacting quite a bit IHATENONCHRISTIANS i think shes being an extremist you should tell her that.

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  • ImsoIceyy
    13 years ago | pl

    Make a plan to kill her, then shes out of the picture. :)

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  • Mel
    13 years ago | pl

    ^^^ I agree!

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  • Excelerate
    13 years ago | pl

    Mother in laws hate everyone... lol

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  • happyB
    13 years ago | pl

    She is not a Christian if she said she hates you and is not practicing tolerance. Tell her if she followed Christ she would practice/show love for all people regardless of their views. Maybe she should rethink whether she is actually religious.

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