Mother giving up my baby for adoption and i want custody

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Hello everyone my ex girlfriend is due to give birth to a baby I believe and mine and I remember she believes.it was mine too although she cheated on me a few times. I believe she is because of the time she got pregnant and where we were at the time at my parents house.make a long story short I have help from people that are willing to become a guardian for my baby and so this way I can be with her every day and help raise her. But I don't have an attorney yet because I don't have any money to be able to pay to hire one. They already are having the adoption papers signed and the process is started. So I just have a few questions for people I meed to know like of I wait and save up money for an attorney and for other court fees and stuff in a few months can I still file for parentariy in court to try and get custody after she is adopted? I have a full time job I make $1200 a month but pay for rent of $440 a month. If I could possibly do this without an attorney and it wise I do this now how can I do it and where should I go? I live in the state of Pennsylvania

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  • [Old Memory]
    5 years ago

    Maybe learn to use paragraphs before raising a kid.

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  • einexile
    5 years ago

    The subreddit Countess mentioned is called /r/legaladvice/

    Good luck.

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  • CountessDouche
    5 years ago

    There's a subreddit (if you aren't familiar google reddit legal advice) for legal issues that i'm fairly certain is frequented by lawyers. They should be able to give you better advice than the people on this site.

    I worked as a paralegal at a family law firm, and all i can tell you is that laws vary by state & they change, so best to get advice from someone who knows what they are talking about.

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  • ghostsalad
    5 years ago

    your mom is not normal please seek legal advice

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  • Meowypowers
    5 years ago

    Again i am no lawyer but i think maybe you could have a public defender demand a paternity test? Idk, maybe someone here knows.

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  • Meowypowers
    5 years ago

    I am no attorney, but you should be able to get public council. You will need to establish paternity, and that could hold you financially responsible even if you don't raise the child. After that you will need to prove you can provide a home. The fact that you are assuming others to be his/her guardian(s) and you are not in a position to raise him/her doest bode well for your case.

    If you were certain you were the father, and (your as bio dad) had a healthy home you could easily challenge the adoption. Since you are neither you will need a lot of money to hire an expensive attorney to fight this, and if you aren't financially or competent enough to have a place of your own, I don't think you will be able to afford that attorney.

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  • chuy
    5 years ago

    Do a DNA test first if the baby is yours you have all the rights in the world to keep her and rise her regardless of what your mother says/thinks. About the lawyer I'm sure they be willing to work with you on a payment plan or either probono ask around.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    You need to get legal advice and I would think a court order to get the baby's DNA for a paternity test.

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  • litelander8
    5 years ago

    I don't think you need a lawyer to petition for a DNA test. But consulting with a lawyer ASAP is your best bet. Good luck!

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth
    5 years ago

    Get on this very fast dude. You dont want to sit around on this one. If you are going to do something you should jump on it. It wouldnt hurt contacting the girl also and trying to be reasonable with her.

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    • Nikclaire
      5 years ago

      This. It also doesn't cost anything to go to the hospital where your child was born and make record that you may be the father and claim paternal rights. It won't be binding but it will help in all future court proceedings.

      I would also file a motion in the county your (possible) child was born. Talk to the county court clerk for help with this.

      Best of luck. Tragically we have all the rights when it comes to children which is horribly unfair but if you keep at it nothing will keep you apart forever.

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