Money for sex

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I'm 23 year old female, and I've live in shared house in the UK for about 2 years. There is this guy who also lives in this house who's about.... 50 odd. Not far off the age of my own father. He actually reminds me of him quite a bit. Anyhow, we have formed and ok friendship over this period. But the other night he came up to my room saying we need to chat, and he had a favour to ask of me. He then handed me a piece of paper saying I had to read it until the end before I said any thing. The short version, basically it was a list of instruction in vivid detail that said what I had to do. where to touch him, how long for where and how he was gonna touch me, even what he wanted me to wear. He also offered me £1500 for my "company" I immediately said no way. I feel sick to my stomach and now I feel so uncomfortable in my own house. I have to live with his guy, now and he wont leave me alone iv asked a handful of time to just stay away. It got to the point where I had to threaten to tell people about him. which did work for a short time. I feel so grossed out and uncomfortable I'm nervous about walking about in other areas of my house. Cause I don't want him to touch me or try talking to me. so what I'm asking is, is it illegal for old guys to offer young women who ARE NOT prostitutes money for sex. if I was pushed to do so contact the police and get him well, done for anything if it came to that.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago | pl

    I'm from the US so I can't speak to what's illegal over there, but go to the police and tell them of your situation. I would just assume there has to be a law in place in this situation that will protect you.

    Regardless, this isn't normal in the slightest bit. You really just need to get outta that place by whatever means necessary. Probably sooner rather than later before the situation escalates into something worse. I can't imagine how awkward and uncomfortable that must be.

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago | pl

    I have no idea of UK laws in this, so I'd suggest you contact someone official who can help you. Your socialist society has many, many aid systems in place for citizens; it's just a matter of find the right department.
    I would also make a police report, getting it on record that he has made uninvited advances on you and that you are no longer comfortable in your own house. Then, inform him that you have made this report and that he should make no further advances or you will go to the police again.
    If you lived in the states, you could have him arrested for solicitation (I hope you kept the note), but probably not in the UK.

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  • penisprisoner
    8 years ago | pl

    holy shit £1500 thats like 2 million American dollars

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  • dirtybirdy
    8 years ago | pl

    Look for hidden cameras in the shower :/

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  • Ellenna
    8 years ago | pl

    I don't know anything about UK law but in my experience of Australian law cops do nothing much at ground level unless you're lucky to get a good one.

    I appreciate maybe you can't move out and why should you have to? Can you talk to your local magistrates court staff about an intervention order? Or community legal centre? Or women's centre if they still exist now that we're supposedly "post patriarchy"?

    An order would mean HE had to move out.

    PLEASE let us know how you get on, I'm concerned for you, he's a predator and you're entirely in the right to want nothing to do with him.

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  • kelili
    8 years ago | pl

    I would have given it a thought :-D

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  • chained_rage
    8 years ago | pl

    Before I answer your question... how many packs of Doritos can one buy with £1500?

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  • harddrystickysocks
    8 years ago | pl

    That sucks.

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  • modernism
    8 years ago | pl

    That's soliciting prostitution. Yes, it is illegal (depending on where you live).

    Keep your phone hidden and recording and talk to him about it. Make it clear that he approached you about it before and that there's money involved.

    Be like, "So, are you sure you want me to do all of this? I mean... I know I said no last time but £1500 is a lot of money... I'm just worried about *insert a certain sexual act from the list*". Then just so you won't have to actually do the acts, just say you'll think about it.

    Also, take a picture of the list if that's possible. After all that, you can go to the police and hopefully get him in jail.

    Just an idea if you want this guy away from you. It'll probably be safer, he seems really creepy. Obviously, it's ultimately up to you if you want to do this.

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago | pl

      So you're suggesting she try and entrap and predator who lives in her own house??? Sounds dangerous to me

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      • modernism
        8 years ago | pl

        She's not "entrapping" him. I agree that it's dangerous but the man is literally living with her - I think it's best to at least try and have a chance to get him away rather than stay in the house with him.

        And even if she's careful and still gets caught by him, I doubt he's going to stab her to death or anything. He'll probably be scared and just beg her to not say anything and move out. Or she could just go to the police without doing all that - which would be best, but I was just worried about the fact that a report might be declined with just hearsay. But that's just me.

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago | pl

          It would be entrapping him to do what that poster suggested.

          You never know what predators are going to do, most of them don't start of stabbing their prey or anything similar, they work up to it if they get away with their earlier predations - I speak from personal experience here.

          I just don't think she should take the risk and yeah, if she can she could move out but she's already said that would be difficult. I haven't found an answer in relation to the predator who's still after me and I have an Intervention Order the cops in my town won't enforce even when he tried to run me over recently.

          I did suggest she go to the cops, hopefully the ones in her locality will be prepared to do their job and protect her.

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    • Couman
      8 years ago | pl

      I don't believe prostitution, as such, is illegal in the UK.

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      • FriendlyBryan
        8 years ago | pl

        Sexual harassment is illegal in the UK. I the guy can't be pinned down for soliciting prostitution he can still be nailed for harassment.

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  • Ebola69
    8 years ago | pl

    Only way to solve your problem is to have sex with him for free.

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  • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!
    8 years ago | pl

    Don't you have parents?. Move back home. Do you have a man?. Move in with him or him with you. If both those options are off the table start browsing roommate ads. I don't think you'll find any worst roommates then a 50 year old creeper who wants to penetrate you.

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  • LizardSkin
    8 years ago | pl

    Well that's pretty damn creepy. But I expected this to be a thread asking if you should consider something like this. Fortunately it isn't.

    I am glad for you that your head is on straight and you have a moral compass. The dude is a creep.

    Sadly, there are a lot of creepy old men in the world. I'm about to be 30 and already feel like i'm turning towards creep status.

    I am actually afraid of getting older for this reason. I'm still attracted to youth, however I would never proposition a girl for sex as you described. That's another level of perversion that I dare not ever tread.

    However the attraction doesn't fade. I've always been (the most) attracted to girls in the 17-23 range. Every year I get older but I am still attracted to youth. I know I am not alone and this is how creepy old men that you describe evolved.

    Some are more perverted, and brazen, than others. Like the one you described. But most older men are still looking (checking you out)

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    • Ellenna
      8 years ago | pl

      Yeah well you could do something about your compulsion/addiction if you really wanted to rather than describing it as something you can't help. Making excuses in advance?

      If you really believe at 30 that you can't help this attraction you need help and soon

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      • LizardSkin
        8 years ago | pl

        Oh really? Why do I need help now?

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        • Ellenna
          8 years ago | pl

          Because you seem to be accepting it as inevitable you are moving towards "creep" status: it's not you know, you have choices but seem to be in denial about that.

          It's not some outside force taking you over, no-one has a gun at your head, it comes from something within you WHICH YOU CAN CHANGE IF YOU WANT TO but not by yourself.

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          • LizardSkin
            8 years ago | pl

            I'm Manic-depressive with bi-polar disorder.

            What age female I am attracted to is hardly of pressing concern to me.

            I also never said the attraction was exclusive to that age group. My ex is a 36 year old female, 6 years my elder.

            And you're kidding yourself if you think there aren't many men who still "look" at young women. Last I checked admiring physical beauty was not against the law.

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            • Ellenna
              8 years ago | pl

              Of course it's not & I didn't say it was or should be - you sd you were concerned you'd turn into creep & that's obviously what I was responding to.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    8 years ago | pl

    Unfortunately, moving out is not an option, as i cannot afford to do so. What worse is, i think he knows it to

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  • nurul_
    8 years ago | pl

    that is completely wrong.

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  • mystery7
    8 years ago | pl

    Sounds like it would be extremely uncomfortable to be living under the same roof as this guy. The best thing is to have absolutely NOTHING to do with a creep like this, and that means either he moves out (unlikely) or you move out.

    My advice to you is put this dickhead behind you and get on with your life. Have nothing to do with him. Good luck.

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago | pl

    Normally I'd say it's a win-win to have sex for money, but if this guy is really creeping you out I'd say no.

    I don't know about the laws where you live, but might be illegal. You could probably go to the police.

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  • xCol
    8 years ago | pl

    Dude, that's one nasty thing.

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