So if you don't approach women by hitting on them/complimenting them, you approach them by...NOT hitting on them or complimenting them! Treat them like people. Strike up a conversation and get to know them as human beings instead of sacks of meat that you find attractive.
See, this is so much simpler than you're making it seem. You've managed to grasp the idea that they don't like being constantly hit on, which is great, but you still need to understand WHY they feel that way. It's because they want to know that you're interested in more than just their looks. For attractive people, somebody being attracted to them isn't special or unique or noteworthy. It's something they hear all the time and doesn't distinguish you from anybody else attracted to them. So make yourself stand out by getting to know them and finding out if your personalities match.
Also, if the pee thing is that important to you, I'd recommend bringing it up as soon as possible. Don't blurt it out out of nowhere, but find an opportunity to mention it and see how they feel.
Modern feminism makes me scared to approach women
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So if you don't approach women by hitting on them/complimenting them, you approach them by...NOT hitting on them or complimenting them! Treat them like people. Strike up a conversation and get to know them as human beings instead of sacks of meat that you find attractive.
See, this is so much simpler than you're making it seem. You've managed to grasp the idea that they don't like being constantly hit on, which is great, but you still need to understand WHY they feel that way. It's because they want to know that you're interested in more than just their looks. For attractive people, somebody being attracted to them isn't special or unique or noteworthy. It's something they hear all the time and doesn't distinguish you from anybody else attracted to them. So make yourself stand out by getting to know them and finding out if your personalities match.
Also, if the pee thing is that important to you, I'd recommend bringing it up as soon as possible. Don't blurt it out out of nowhere, but find an opportunity to mention it and see how they feel.