Men only care about looks?

I have yet to meet a guy that doesn’t care about looks. I’ve had multiple guys tell me I’m their type mentally and spiritually but just not physically. But I figured if they’re worth it they’d just like me for who I am. Is there any guys out there that don’t care that much about looks?

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  • Every man likes women out of their league. They think they are entitled to a hot model or movie star when the reality is they are really average looking with an average personality.
    On the other hand many women are only interested in money and feel entitled to a rich man so its all swings and roundabouts really.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Swings, and roundabouts.

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      • shuggy-chan

        Its all cotton candy and merry-go-arounds really

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        • RoseIsabella

          That sounds good to me.

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          • shuggy-chan

            Its all scuba gear and pirate booty

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  • RoseIsabella

    I think when someone says you're his type, or her type mentally, or spiritually, but not physically it might just be a way to soften the blow, and make the rejection not seem so inclusive, as if the person doesn't want to hurt your feelings. I could be wrong of course. Regardless, I would just try to forget about it. I've accepted that another person can reject me for just about any reason, and I choose to be fine with that knowledge because the flip side is that I can reject another person for just about any reason I so choose, and I don't owe that other person any sort of explanation whatsoever. I'm certainly not a fan of guys who come on way too strong, are overly persistent, or want an sort of an explanation as to why I'm not interested in them. I feel that, "No", is a complete sentence!

    Yes, of course it's hurtful when you're attracted to someone, and he, or she does not share your feelings, but it's just a fact of life. Not everyone we are interested in is going to reciprocate that interest. Sure, it's sad, and even hurtful, but it's no tragedy. When it comes to rejection the best thing one can do is to accept it as gracefully as possible, forget about it, and move on.

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    • I needed to read this

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      • RoseIsabella

        Thanks.

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  • brutus

    Your looks matter.

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  • bigbudchonga

    Men don't just care about looks, but it's a big thing for us. Just think about how much time girls spend on putting on make-up, plastic surgery, buying clothes etc. Then think about the evolutionary reason why women do all these things.

    Looks are very important to guys, but they're not everything.

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  • jojo_potato

    Men are usually captured by how someone looks, then they fall in love with that man or woman as they get to know them for their mentality and personality. That's been my experience, anyway. (I'm a female so don't take my word for it)

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  • leggs91200

    Even though men will date or screw just about any willing woman, there comes the problem of whether or not he would want to be seen with her. The woman may not be pretty but the guy adores her. That doesn't mean his family/friends will like her. They may give him a hard time. This is true even if the guy is NO catch. Men don't want to be associated with unattractive women.

    Women do not seem to be as concerned about her family/friends accepting who she dates. It is why some women date ugly, disgusting sleaze bags.

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  • Lestat565

    Funny how you you don’t have a good argument so you revert to weak insults about my spelling. You lost this argument go in your corner and cry

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  • Lestat565

    Everyone cares about looks not just men. You can pretend that your better than that but you’d be full of crap. You don’t want an ugly as sin guy anymore then us guys want an ugly as sin you. We didn’t make you unattractive blame your parents for that.

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  • eesixtwentyone

    As a man (which I am NOT in any way speaking for all men or any man other than myself) your looks is what I'd look at first and make a quick judgement off of. Once I get to know you (a week or so), I'd stop caring either way. Once I know you I don't care if you're not so bright, not so pretty, not so whatever else, the judgement from then on out is if I'm getting optimal enjoyment out of my time with you.

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  • perfectxsilence

    Most men are ugly so no idea why they place any importance on looks

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  • Whatcouldpossiblygowrong

    i think it is not right to generalize men as only pertaining or giving importance to just the looks. i mean, it is undoubtedly true that men are polygamous but apart from that, we too are troubling ourselves with some other stuff and not just primarily on looks. lol. it would be the least thing I'll be concerning myself to be honest. XP

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  • NoLifer

    Depends on the guy really

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  • 1ne8ight7even

    Women do exactly the same. How many hot chicks do you know who are dating an ugly bastard and like them for who they are? 0 is my bet.

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  • WeirdGuyFromTheSouth

    I will admit that looks are the most important asset to me depending on what I want from the girl. If I want a wife then looks arent the most important but if I'm young I want good sex and a fun time. Its hard to do that if the girls doesnt have good looks. But you can get good looks if you workout and get fit.

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  • Hhhhhh

    Men don't ONLY care about looks, but looks do matter. There are other factors like personality and if you and the other person get along, but looks are still a major factor.

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  • splashgame3

    Yeah guys care but I don’t think guys are as picky as women when it comes to it

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  • IrishPotato

    Then attract better people.

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  • BleedingPain

    Looks are important too. It’s not just about physical feature you were born with, but how you dress, and maintain your body. If you have a beard, take the time to comb it. Baggy, stained clothing, no thankyou. I dont expect somone to put all their effort into how they look, but I want someone who takes the time to take care of themself.

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  • Ummitsstillme

    Men are attracted to healthy women, women are attracted to capable men.

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    • notsaying4life

      ...rich men* :)

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  • Mindhunter

    Beauty comes first, it is the holy truth. But beauty / looks are temporary. After a few days, doesn’t matter to men anymore. People have to look at you/ us first then comes the qualities. Mutual understanding is vital. In most cases brilliant girls are not beautiful & beautiful girls are not brilliant, vice versa. 10% gets both & is kinda rare.

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  • Lestat565

    I never said it wasn’t subjective. Your putting words in my mouth. But you can’t tell me that that you want to date a person who with a face that looks like it was hit by a truck and a body that looks like a wale. Again you can pretend that your better but your full of crap. You even say average looking men are better so you care about looks just as much as the rest of us. Maybe you can’t get these average guys because you are below average.

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    • I think maybe their point is that there are people who would become attracted to another person after learning their mind.

      I see your point though, the drive is there to find a healthy mate. That's an old foible from our ancestors, interesting to observe but for me not all I'm interested in.

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  • Iszzy123

    Maybe at first but when you read the book and it not good ur not going to keep reading

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  • JustinAnderson

    Looks matter bro ... Focus on your looks then you will get hooks

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