I'm not trying to be funny here, but when women spend to much of their time to define their sexual areas and look sexually attractive, making their appearance the most prominent feature to notice, then it's only natural for someone to be seen in that light.
Also, the male sexuality is to notice sexual partners. I don't think it is fair that the male sexuality gets to be shamed. This is how biology made men, it is their sexuality to find people desirable as a sexual partner, this is not a choice, it is biology. It's as about as fair to shame as shaming homosexuality.
Ofcourse, this is not meaning men only want sex or do not want a romantic partner.
I don't know. I think men have some role in it. If it was all about the way we carried ourselves which dictates how men treat us, then my security uniform must be a lot more flattering to my figure than I see it as =/ Unless acting butch is the new "sexy women" standard. Wouldn't shock me.
Not trying to insinuate a 60 page debate or anything, but I have a hard time believing that women are 100% to blame when they are being "seen sexually" when I can wear a uniform which makes me look like a man and still get passes. I think it might go a bit deeper than that.
You do get some people that "cat call" (I think that is what it is called) without reason, however people that are not dressed in a sexual way tend to be the minority of the ones cat called, in my experience.
No. Cat calling is different from actually trying to make a pass at someone. When a guy cat calls, he's whistling or shouting to a woman for the purpose of gaining attention. If you google it you'll see.
What I am talking about is more like, I'm filling up my tank in a gas station in my uniform on my way to work and the guy behind me is telling me how cute I am and then starts asking me when I'll be there next, when I get off my shift, if I live in the area etc. Which is trying to make a pass at me and it's a little uncomfortable. Kudos to him for having the balls, just wish they'd quit when I say "I'm married" or "I'm gay". I mean, really, I drove a V8, if he knew about cars he would know I'd be there again very soon XD
You would be seriously surprised at how little many men care about what I'm wearing or whether I'm wearing makeup and so on. It's not just me either. I can agree that dressing in a more provocative manner will be, of course, more provocative but considering that many women don't even need to, I still disagree that the way a woman carries herself completely dictates whether or man will try to make passes at her, if that makes sense.
For some people, simply being male or female and in an approximate age group is sufficient 'provocation' for a sexual advance. Because men have traditionally been the chaser (it's something of a biological inclination) and women have traditionally been the chased, women are more likely to be on the receiving end of unwanted advances, whether they are dressed to impress or not.
Men are so sensitive to critisim IIN?
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I'm not trying to be funny here, but when women spend to much of their time to define their sexual areas and look sexually attractive, making their appearance the most prominent feature to notice, then it's only natural for someone to be seen in that light.
Also, the male sexuality is to notice sexual partners. I don't think it is fair that the male sexuality gets to be shamed. This is how biology made men, it is their sexuality to find people desirable as a sexual partner, this is not a choice, it is biology. It's as about as fair to shame as shaming homosexuality.
Ofcourse, this is not meaning men only want sex or do not want a romantic partner.
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I don't know. I think men have some role in it. If it was all about the way we carried ourselves which dictates how men treat us, then my security uniform must be a lot more flattering to my figure than I see it as =/ Unless acting butch is the new "sexy women" standard. Wouldn't shock me.
Not trying to insinuate a 60 page debate or anything, but I have a hard time believing that women are 100% to blame when they are being "seen sexually" when I can wear a uniform which makes me look like a man and still get passes. I think it might go a bit deeper than that.
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You do get some people that "cat call" (I think that is what it is called) without reason, however people that are not dressed in a sexual way tend to be the minority of the ones cat called, in my experience.
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No. Cat calling is different from actually trying to make a pass at someone. When a guy cat calls, he's whistling or shouting to a woman for the purpose of gaining attention. If you google it you'll see.
What I am talking about is more like, I'm filling up my tank in a gas station in my uniform on my way to work and the guy behind me is telling me how cute I am and then starts asking me when I'll be there next, when I get off my shift, if I live in the area etc. Which is trying to make a pass at me and it's a little uncomfortable. Kudos to him for having the balls, just wish they'd quit when I say "I'm married" or "I'm gay". I mean, really, I drove a V8, if he knew about cars he would know I'd be there again very soon XD
You would be seriously surprised at how little many men care about what I'm wearing or whether I'm wearing makeup and so on. It's not just me either. I can agree that dressing in a more provocative manner will be, of course, more provocative but considering that many women don't even need to, I still disagree that the way a woman carries herself completely dictates whether or man will try to make passes at her, if that makes sense.
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Have to agree with you there.
For some people, simply being male or female and in an approximate age group is sufficient 'provocation' for a sexual advance. Because men have traditionally been the chaser (it's something of a biological inclination) and women have traditionally been the chased, women are more likely to be on the receiving end of unwanted advances, whether they are dressed to impress or not.