I believe commnication helps a lot. Really I agree with that part. However, if a guy cheated on me(and I'm not using a guy to imply some sexist accusation..just an example from me) why would I have to spend my time and energy to talk about it if he clearly only thought about himself. Yes, a relationship takes two people, but if he decided to get selfish, why should I give him a second chance to redeem himself. If he didn't want to talk to me about any of our problems before he cheated then why would I have to talk to him about it afterwards? Seriously life is too short to hang on to someone like that. If the trust and loyalty in a relationship is broken, then it shouldn't continue to stay as a relationship. That's my opinion.
I never said you have to forgive anyone. I'm arguing for the right to a fair trial.
I think it's very unhealthy to think in black and white terms. Have you never made a terrible decision before? Humans think asymmetrically by nature, meaning that since we only understand our own thought process, we have a lot of trouble empathizing with anyone else's. So to make a permanent judgment on someone based on a single action? That, to me, is selfish.
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I believe commnication helps a lot. Really I agree with that part. However, if a guy cheated on me(and I'm not using a guy to imply some sexist accusation..just an example from me) why would I have to spend my time and energy to talk about it if he clearly only thought about himself. Yes, a relationship takes two people, but if he decided to get selfish, why should I give him a second chance to redeem himself. If he didn't want to talk to me about any of our problems before he cheated then why would I have to talk to him about it afterwards? Seriously life is too short to hang on to someone like that. If the trust and loyalty in a relationship is broken, then it shouldn't continue to stay as a relationship. That's my opinion.
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I never said you have to forgive anyone. I'm arguing for the right to a fair trial.
I think it's very unhealthy to think in black and white terms. Have you never made a terrible decision before? Humans think asymmetrically by nature, meaning that since we only understand our own thought process, we have a lot of trouble empathizing with anyone else's. So to make a permanent judgment on someone based on a single action? That, to me, is selfish.