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My husband tell me that in men's deep heart they always want to sleep with another girl, no matter they are single or they are married, but the difference is some men can hide this intention and control themselves well and some men can't. Is it normal for every man?
I've heard this before - the lecherous louse is actually an honest prince and vice-versa. What baloney.
If people were all about their biological urges and impulses there would be no civilized life. People are, of course, more than that.
Except apparently your husband, who, in addition to vulgarly ennobling his penile world-view, has no regard to your feelings as his wife.
I love my mum's friend. She makes the bestest cookies and always shows me her cleavage by accident but she winks lots so I keep my head down into the cookie.
True or not I would prefer to be told that by a friend and not by my husband.
It is definately normal than men are biologically programmed to 'spread their seed'/sleep around to a much greater extent than women are. However, now that we are evolved, intelligent, thoughtful human beings, men should be able to rationalise this urge and deal with it. The only time it's appropiate and fair for guys to sleep with other women is if the couple has agreed to an open relationship or similar arrangement. Never let him use it as an excuse to cheat... it's 2012 and as I said, we're evolved now. I think it's important to talk about things like this if there is a need to. A lot of women would take this kind of 'confession' personally and see it as a reflection on themselves. I think it's quite honest of a man to talk about it and it doesn't mean he doesn't love whoever he's with. That's the thing - sleeping around isn't love, it's not a relationship. To me the healthiest r'ships are the ones where both people can say, "He's fit/ she's cute" without the other taking it personally etc. That shows a lot of security in the r'ship and in the individuals. Sorry, have gone on a bit!
Men and woman are different creatures. Woman deny and lie to themselves so fucking much it is unbelievable. What person wants to just have sex with someone for the rest of their lives. You want change spice life. I have a bf we decided to have a threesome. If he decides he wants to sleep with another woman will I be upset yes. But I won't hate him because I am letting go ahead. Now he is an old fashion at times and I know he would not let me know. So do I tell. No but just do and no kiss and tell. Life is short leave it to the fullest. Yes I am woman.
I would say so yes. But it's not very nice when they say it to your face, it makes you feel unappreciated.
But the same can go for women nowadays. Many women enjoy sleeping around and we should without any stigma.
Not only for men, I'm a girl and I'm always looking for a new nice guy to try out in bed.
I dunno... I'm female and do occasionally see a guy and think "I'd do him"... but i wouldn't ever because I'm in a committed relationship?
I suppose it's whether he means "men see girls and feel sexual urges, but would never act on it" or if he means "All men want to cheat on their wives. Some are better at stopping themselves."
Looking is okay. Occasional imagining is okay. Genuinely WANTING to cheat is heading into the realm of not okay...
I don't sleep around because I love my fiancée. But yes, the desire is always there.
No, it's not true of every man. Some men are demisexual, for instance. Some men are asexual. The idea that every man's sexuality works the same way is very silly.
I'm guessing your husband thinks this way because, well... he's that type of man. Men who aren't like him think differently. It's not just men, but people in general. We all have different preferences, and people who want to sleep with anything slightly sexually appealing, think everyone is that way. People who are content with just one person look at the people who are constantly wanting to bone everything and think they should settile down and be in commited relationships lol We're all differnt wishing we were all the same xD
Does it matter?
As long as he takes no action, why does it matter if he has a fantasy once in a while?
Yes, it is normal for men to want to sleep with other women. Most men have the instinctive desire to "spread their seed" so to speak.
Some men truly believe in monogamy and love and respect the person they are with enough to control this desire, some men sleep around. If a man is being faithful to you in a monogamous relationship, though, it shouldn't matter.
Everyman can actually control themselves, but yes it is normal for everyman to want to sleep with other women, and for some men that desire will be stronger than for others.
Regardless, every man has the capability to hide their intentions and control themselves.