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Would it be acceptable to approach various women, likely at a bar but not limited to, and just ask "Would you like to have sex?" in a polite but honest way. Has anyone ever tried this before (if yes, please explain how it went)? As a believer in evolutionary biology, it seems that too much beating around the bush is involved in sex and relationships. Is this approach far-fetched at all?
Well you can do what one of my coworkers said he tried...
He'd go up to girls and ask "Do you want to have pizza and sex".
If they said "No" he'd ask them why they didn't like pizza.
Results... he claimed he got the following reactions (all about 1/3 of the time for each)
1) Slapped
2) The girl laughed and at least talked to him
3) Laid
he said a 1/3 chance of getting laid wasn't bad.
Women don't want to be asked for sex, they want to be tricked and deceived into it by any means necessary. Tell them they're not fat or they're prettier than their friends, that sort of thing. You have to at least feign some sort of interest in their personality to a sufficient degree so that they don't completely hate themselves for having sex with a man
LMAO...I have to agree with 'tricks and deception'--that certainly is one way of looking at it...
Watch Deuce Bigalow: Male Gigolo for some tips....he makes the effort to do a few nice things for the ladies, come up with some nice complements to make them feel good about themselves, a few nice dates where he actually takes into consideration some activities/events they might want to do/attend, and the women think he is great!
I think a woman would hate herself for having sex with a man that just uses her, physically or mentally treats her like crap, is not financially responsible for himself, or doesn't put in the effort needed to help her achieve orgasm...
I think that you can develop a sense of people's stance. Bars are a difficult place to read people. Much easier to catch onto the projections of a girl at a smaller party or friends of friends setting...or even at work. And I definitely wouldn't state "do you wanna fuck.." ..that's too forward. If anything, state that you've been working so much (or whatever) that you haven't had time to do anything fun.
I would imagine it depends on what kind of bar you go to, and what kind of woman you ask. Also, are you in Nevada? Another important factor. Most women, including myself, would call you a creep and walk away. Some would slap you, a rare few would grab your hand and walk you to the nearest bathroom and some would probably say something along the lines of "That will be $100"
In summation, it entirely depends on the circumstances.
While such an approach seems uncivilized or vulgar to me, the biggest PUA I even knew would sometimes drive down this large Avenue in a large city near me late at night, and when he spied a couple of women in a car, he would roll his window down and say "Wanna f*ck?" He got laid ALL the time.
Famous 20th century physicist Richard Feynman talks in his book "Surely your joking, Mr. Feynman" about how he used that very approach (you described) with women in bars to get laid. He said it worked enough of the time that it was well worth it, because the approach saved time and money. In a packed bar of many single women, he could get laid using this technique almost every night he tried. Who are we to shrug this result off? Feynman was probably a lot smarter than us. :)
No, not to most women...If you are an average guy and just want to have sex without beating around the bush, no courtship, no games, flirting, no foreplay, no conversation, no chasing---you pay for a prostitute... and you're both getting something out of it (you're getting laid without much complication, and she's getting paid to keep her mouth shut and not expect anything)...but if you're talking most regular women (not all but most), yeah it doesn't work that way unless you are a baller, millionaire, or famous actor....I am calling it like I see it---these types can simply ask for sex and they'll get it without much work, if they keep the girl around it will eventually require an investment of time and resources....I was under the impression that men are hunters, that they enjoy competition and working hard for something...so wouldn't you get bored if you got laid all the time by just asking without any challenge, work, flirting, or chasing involved? The baller, actor, millionaire will get bored of having a woman around easily providing sex he doesn't have to work to hard to get....even men in relationships and married men get bored with getting it easily and that's why you have so many articles dedicated to advising people on keeping relationships and sex fresh and new (as in the days when you first courted, chased and challenged each other for it)...so yeah, dude, if you want some, put a little effort into it....