sounds like he is in a she'll of his own. Who knows why. It's possible he has a naturally low sex drive but if he's never had another girl or did anything kinky it's probably not in his nature. Perhaps in time that'll change but it could take years. I was like that a few years ago but it was mostly insecurity and not wanting to feel bad about not knowing if I was doing things right. I was always very cautious ans deliberate to not lose control to the point in which I couldn't show or feel much enjoyment. I also made sure I never received any sexual satisfaction without giving some first. And I never did anything that I felt could be degrading to a woman like slapping or saying names, cursing etc. I regret it now but everyone adjusts to such in their own way. I still wouldn't curse but I'd be more open overall in a healthy way. Being closed off was mostly a result of my childhood and being a bookworm. Hiding behind anything to try and be normal lol
I'm still young and I my boyfriend was my first so I'm still learning about my sexuality, but there have been a few times where I'll ask him to do something completely mellow and not totally out there and he just won't do it
Is he normally shy or reserved? He should show some reaction unless something about sex bothers him. If he pushes away from the question then Something is up that he isn't ready to talk about. Therapy works but it all still takes time
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sounds like he is in a she'll of his own. Who knows why. It's possible he has a naturally low sex drive but if he's never had another girl or did anything kinky it's probably not in his nature. Perhaps in time that'll change but it could take years. I was like that a few years ago but it was mostly insecurity and not wanting to feel bad about not knowing if I was doing things right. I was always very cautious ans deliberate to not lose control to the point in which I couldn't show or feel much enjoyment. I also made sure I never received any sexual satisfaction without giving some first. And I never did anything that I felt could be degrading to a woman like slapping or saying names, cursing etc. I regret it now but everyone adjusts to such in their own way. I still wouldn't curse but I'd be more open overall in a healthy way. Being closed off was mostly a result of my childhood and being a bookworm. Hiding behind anything to try and be normal lol
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I'm still young and I my boyfriend was my first so I'm still learning about my sexuality, but there have been a few times where I'll ask him to do something completely mellow and not totally out there and he just won't do it
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Is he normally shy or reserved? He should show some reaction unless something about sex bothers him. If he pushes away from the question then Something is up that he isn't ready to talk about. Therapy works but it all still takes time